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ellie2000
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y dont ppl believe my side of the story about the cleaner
Crazy mad insane
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What are you referring to? Sorry if this is something you've mentioned before. I can imagine how hurtful it is to have others not believe you when you try to talk to them.
Who is it exactly who doesn't believe you?
Whoever they are, I'm sorry they don't. This is something that is serious and needs to be understood and dealt with properly.
You also said you and your mum can't find another cleaner. Why is this?
Also is your mum around when it happens? Would he still do this if she was there too? I'm just thinking of ways to help you be safe around him, while you're trying to hopefully find a new cleaner.
It's been a few days since you posted on here. Are you okay? Has he come over since? How often does he come to your place?
as for 'am i ok' as if im totally mentally stable!!!
It doesn't sound very good if you were paying them even when they weren't coming.
Did you set up like a standing payment every week or something? I'm not sure if they're an independent cleaner, I don't know what the best way to deal with this is. Do they work for a company, or is it just them on their own? Would you not feel comfortable telling them that you're getting another cleaner, even if you aren't able to for the moment, to keep you safe?
I understand that that's something you've set up between the both of you, but if someone doesn't provide a service, you're well with your right not to pay them. Did you feel uncomfortable talking to them about this and asking for the money back since they didn't do anything? I figure it may be harder to sort since they're independent.
But the behaviour and way you've been treated by them is not okay in any way. I understand how you feel about saying no to people, and feeling like you need to say yes. It's completely understandable. Has your mum ever spoken to them and tried to get stuff sorted with them?