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So my mind has been all over the place really mostly when Iām bored I suddenly feel really low and I question things a lot sometimes I think Iām better off not being here because if you didnāt know I havenāt got many friends just because Iām in a wheelchair I think and there is nothing else wrong I just canāt walk but people donāt understand that I canāt change that it just upsets me when I donāt have very many friends and the ones I do have nearly always start drama.
This boy in my class liked me for ages but Iāve never felt the same but I got with him to make him happy but I do t think it was working out so I broke up with him because I didnāt have the same feelings as him I think itās all my fault that I broke up with him but I just didnāt feel the same I couldnāt just carry on like it.
Before all that tho I went to online date and I kept getting played they would stay with me for a day and then block me. All I want is to find my soulmate one who understands me and wonāt mess around but I donāt think I ever will which is making me feel like crap š„ŗšš£
Tagged: Relationships Single Life and Dating Stress Mental Health Friendships
So my mind has been all over the place really mostly when Iām bored I suddenly feel really low and I question things a lot sometimes I think Iām better off not being here because if you didnāt know I havenāt got many friends just because Iām in a wheelchair I think and there is nothing else wrong I just canāt walk but people donāt understand that I canāt change that it just upsets me when I donāt have very many friends and the ones I do have nearly always start drama.
This boy in my class liked me for ages but Iāve never felt the same but I got with him to make him happy but I do t think it was working out so I broke up with him because I didnāt have the same feelings as him I think itās all my fault that I broke up with him but I just didnāt feel the same I couldnāt just carry on like it.
Before all that tho I went to online date and I kept getting played they would stay with me for a day and then block me. All I want is to find my soulmate one who understands me and wonāt mess around but I donāt think I ever will which is making me feel like crap š„ŗšš£
Tagged: Relationships Single Life and Dating Stress Mental Health Friendships
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I'm sorry to hear you've got a lot on your mind right now, I think it's understandable to feel worse when your bored because you've got more time to think about things and your mind isn't busy.
I don't have much advice for you but just wanted to say it's great you're opening up here and we're always here.
In terms of relationships you'll find the right person one day, it might take some time and there might be a few who aren't right for you, but eventually you'll find someone who is if you keep on looking!
Big hugs
omg that sounds amazing!! you must be thrilled? how has the job been going for you?
I am okay thanks - looking forward to some chocolate cake later
Thankyou so much for saying that thatās so lovely of you to say.
We can be friends if you wantā¤ļø
Yes that is amazing that I finally started working. The job has been going good I think I enjoy the job.
You can also call me by my name if you want my name is Alina.
That sounds nice what chocolate cake have you got ā¤ļøāØ
But 100% I get what you mean being in such a baffling position is never nice! You mentioned a happy relationship being really important to you - and this makes sense because relationships can bring us such happiness - I'm wondering if you've ever had a look at the Brook's website? because it really does have some awesome advice about processing the end of relationships, but also general feelings around love, romance and sexuality. URL here if you'd like to have a little look, more than fine if not
https://brook.org.uk/topics/relationships/
I'm sorry to hear that there are more problems now
I'm curious, does the job involve working with others?
CAKE was amazing I cannot lie - cannot go wrong with a beautiful mousse/ganache choco cake
It's great that you're enjoying your job, it's nice to have something positive to do and keep your mind occupied especially during this time.
How are you feeling now?
I'm a wheelchair users too. Relationship in general can be tricky when we are disabled, particularly because it is visible that will put some people off. I have developed the kind of attitude of that if people cannot accept that I am disabled then I do not have the extra energy into maintaining a "friendship" with them. I have chronic fatigue and have very limited capacity, I cannot afford to waste energy in people who try and change me.
Are you part of any organisations that allow you to meet other young, disabled people? I do wheelchair basketball as an idea?
How many friends you have or wether you are non-disabled has nothing to do with your worth.
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I agree with you if people donāt expect you donāt bother but Iām kind of different like that I worry that people donāt like meā¤ļø.
I used to be like that, if anyone showed any kind of interest or anything I would kind of cling onto it and so anything to keep it going, when I learnt more about my self, I learned when my body was telling me the situation was not right.
Long distance relationships are bad, as with all relationship try not to lose yourself into the relationship. You don't have to be a doormat and do what ever anyone asks to have friends.
People respect when you can be yourself.
I used to worry that people dont like me and sometimes I still do however part of it is that most of my social interactions now are in supportive environment or with existing friends (currently maintaining around 4 close I don't think I would manage much more).
I would strongly recommend finding a group that fits with an interest, it doesn't have to involve other disabled young people, but if it does bonus. None of my friends come from an educational environment.
Ge