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ellie2000
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how do u tackle failure, how do u get voices out of ur head thts insulting u putting u down. ppls words towards me b4 lockdown make me insult myself for days after, y?
tips 4 wen i face challenging situations?
tips 4 wen i face challenging situations?
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I try to write them out and then tear up the paper. A piece of advice someone gave me was to write out three positives about myself every night before I go to sleep.
This is super cheesy but a quote that helps me is “why do we fall? So we can pick ourselves back up again”. Our mistakes or failures don’t define who we are, life is about trying to move on from them and grow, but you’re never alone. Always happy to listen
I agree with the above advice, so I would love to echo that!
Failure is tricky, but it can also lead to your biggest periods of growth. I like to focus on that positive, and try and pick out any lessons learnt, to see it in a better light
hes a scotsman haha
Hi Ellie,
They say that challenging situations and failing can lead to biggest growth in a person. If you want to achieve something, failing is a necessary part of the journey as you can learn a lot from failing. Even the most successful people have been through a long string of failures before they got where they are.
In terms of getting voices out of your head, I’ve recently discovered one approach that works for me. I try to meditate, or just listen to meditations before bed and through that I am learning to focus on being in the moment. By which I mean steering the attention from the voices in my head to where I am now. And even though that my thoughts still go wondering and I am doing only small steps, I feel I have a better control now. For me it really works.
I'm using this one:
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meditation.elevenminute&hl=en&gl=US
Most of the time, people don't realise the positive lessons they have learnt until a little while after, when you are able to reflect. So just practicing patience and trusting that you will realise some positive lessons later down the line can be really great
Please know we are here if you need someone to fall back on.