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Is my boyfriend emotionally abusive?
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Im sorry its long. Please read I need some advice.....A few times he would look like he's in a mood so I leave him to go on his phone even though I want to talk with him and have a laugh. A few times he's snapped at me or said things like " how can you watch that, I understand because .... " . He eventually would say sorry. And we'd move on from it.
On my birthday night a few weeks ago, I heard him tut at something while on his phone so I asked what's up but he had a go at me for not watching the film cause he's missing it. I ended up crying and he came upto me and said you're not upset are you? I said yes I am and he kept saying sorry.
The other day we spent a nice day in town and on the way a car was coming out from behind a bus so I had to go into the bus lane which was empty. He then said" what you doing, you're gonna get a £30 fine".
I said I'd rather get a fine then have a car accident.
He again said sorry. When we got home he was saying sorry again but I said you say sorry alot just lately. He's been in a better mood since.
He mentioned he used to be able to stay up til 3am and stay in bed til 12 the next morning. And he did do that a couple of times.
But it made me paranoid because I know hes been texting his ex. He said hes talking with his friend again but when I did something on his phone for him I noticed its his ex because he showed the picture of her to me.
I deleted all exs off my phone but he recently started a friendship up again with his ex. I don't get why my bfs have to talk their ex's???? I'm so confused and sad.
Apart from all this he is loving and listens to me. And I do love him.
On my birthday night a few weeks ago, I heard him tut at something while on his phone so I asked what's up but he had a go at me for not watching the film cause he's missing it. I ended up crying and he came upto me and said you're not upset are you? I said yes I am and he kept saying sorry.
The other day we spent a nice day in town and on the way a car was coming out from behind a bus so I had to go into the bus lane which was empty. He then said" what you doing, you're gonna get a £30 fine".
I said I'd rather get a fine then have a car accident.
He again said sorry. When we got home he was saying sorry again but I said you say sorry alot just lately. He's been in a better mood since.
He mentioned he used to be able to stay up til 3am and stay in bed til 12 the next morning. And he did do that a couple of times.
But it made me paranoid because I know hes been texting his ex. He said hes talking with his friend again but when I did something on his phone for him I noticed its his ex because he showed the picture of her to me.
I deleted all exs off my phone but he recently started a friendship up again with his ex. I don't get why my bfs have to talk their ex's???? I'm so confused and sad.
Apart from all this he is loving and listens to me. And I do love him.
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What does concern me though is that he's in touch with his ex. Judging by the fact you've deleted all yours, I assume that you don't think that it's okay to be in touch with your ex while you're in a relationship with someone else. I think you do need to discuss this at some point, but how you approach is up to you - you know your partner best. Hopefully, he'll understand that you're not okay with it and stop contact x
So I think it takes a while for someone to get over the person