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My Girlfriend is pregnant. Am I wrong for not wanting to be involved?
My (16m), soon to be ex, gf (15) is pregnant and has decided to keep the baby. I have decided I do not want to be involved in the babys life. Am I wrong for this?
Found out she's pregnant a few weeks ago. The condom slipped off, she lied to me about having a contraceptive coil. She also refused to have the day after pill, claiming she couldn't for medical reasons, as it turns out she could of. She often encouraged me to have unprotected sex, saying i should just "cum inside her" and that she'd have an abortion, I refused.
She has now decided to keep the baby without any consultation and is 100% fixed in her view.
I'm planning to break up with her soon once I've got legal advice. I feel I've been very responsible and gf has been extremely irresponsible, I suspect she may have intended to get pregnant (she's denied this).
Just got off the phone with a family support organisation. Woman on the phone essentially told me I'm not taking this seriously and I could be in big trouble for having intercourse with someone under 16. She told me that regardless of how a child comes into this world, the biological parents are responsible for it.
As I understand it, the law isn't as black and white as that and a 15&16yo sexual relationship is fine. I also feel the latter statement is wrong, for example in cases of rape.
I personally feel that having sex under highly deceptive circumstances withdrawls consent, making me not responsible for this baby. Just like if a mechanic said they fixed a car when in reality they didn't (knowing full well the car is dangerous), if the car then comes into an accident the soley responsible person is that mechanic.
(I am getting the support I need through other organisations & family, I just want to know the communities opinion.)
Am I wrong for not feeling responsible for this child?
Am I wrong for having sex with a girl under 16? Despite the fact she's just a year younger than me.