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How do I get over my best friend rejecting me?
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How do I get over my best friend rejecting me?
How do I get over my best friend rejecting me? - The Mix asks an expert.
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Sorry to hear that you fell in your love with your best friend but despite confessing your feelings, she didn't feel the same way about you and yet still wants to remain friends. This does put you in a difficult position as naturally you will be hurt by the rejection, yet still have feelings for her, which makes you feel worse when you see her with her boyfriend.
It's good that you are trying to give yourself space, keep yourself busy and get into some hobbies. It's unfortunate that these things don't seem to have helped much, especially when you realise she never left your mind to begin with.
Do you spend much time with her at all? Or do you have other friends that you can hang out with? As the article suggests "maybe spend time with smaller groups of friends that don’t include her for a while – arrange a boy’s night out for example. Having a little time apart from her and having fun without her around could help and might remind you how much you can enjoy yourself without her. Alternatively, do you have other opportunities to go out in a different circle of friends, for instance with people at work or college?" It can help to socialise and spend time with others as this will help take our minds off certain people (more so than if you were doing a hobby by yourself perhaps).
You are also more than welcome to use our discussion boards https://community.themix.org.uk/ if you'd like a place to chat and get support from others. You can also speak to our team https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team for one-to-one support. If you've been feeling this way for a while, you might also want to think about talking to a professional such as a counsellor too as they can help you explore your feelings and suggest ways to help you manage them so they don't get in the way of living the life you deserve