How do I get over my best friend rejecting me?

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How do I get over my best friend rejecting me?

How do I get over my best friend rejecting me? - The Mix asks an expert.

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I fell in love with my bestfriend 2 and a half years ago when but I confessed how I feel she said she still wanted to be friends but she didn't want a relationship and I respect her decision but at the same time I hate it I mean I can't sleep thinking of her I have been numb since the rejection and all I want to do is be with her but it hurts when I am and it is unbereable to see her with her bf it causes me to have a actual physical pain when I see them together and when I think about her which is literally 24/7 what can I do to get over her I have tried everything giving myself time,givng myself space, and giving myself hobbies to keep my mind off her but at the end of the day I come to relize that she never left my mind. What can I possibly do to get over her?

Maisy

Hi @Depressed

Sorry to hear that you fell in your love with your best friend but despite confessing your feelings, she didn't feel the same way about you and yet still wants to remain friends. This does put you in a difficult position as naturally you will be hurt by the rejection, yet still have feelings for her, which makes you feel worse when you see her with her boyfriend. 

It's good that you are trying to give yourself space, keep yourself busy and get into some hobbies. It's unfortunate that these things don't seem to have helped much, especially when you realise she never left your mind to begin with. 

Do you spend much time with her at all? Or do you have other friends that you can hang out with? As the article suggests "maybe spend time with smaller groups of friends that don’t include her for a while – arrange a boy’s night out for example. Having a little time apart from her and having fun without her around could help and might remind you how much you can enjoy yourself without her. Alternatively, do you have other opportunities to go out in a different circle of friends, for instance with people at work or college?" It can help to socialise and spend time with others as this will help take our minds off certain people (more so than if you were doing a hobby by yourself perhaps).

You are also more than welcome to use our discussion boards https://community.themix.org.uk/ if you'd like a place to chat and get support from others. You can also speak to our team https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team for one-to-one support. If you've been feeling this way for a while, you might also want to think about talking to a professional such as a counsellor too as they can help you explore your feelings and suggest ways to help you manage them so they don't get in the way of living the life you deserve