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Would you forgive your partner for cheating?
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I wouldn’t say I had been cheated on but I was speaking to a guy once and after a while I started to fall for him. He got with another girl which I thought to myself “we weren’t together so whatever..” but he ignored me throughout his relationship until they broke up. Then started talking to me again. I was annoyed with him for only talking to me now that they broke up and said I felt like I was “second choice.” He managed to get round me telling me how sorry he was, that she was controlling and didn’t like him speaking to other girls ect.
eventually I decided to give him another chance we were talking and we arranged a date. On that night I was dressed and ready to walk out the door when I got a text saying there had been a family emergency and that he couldn’t make it and he was so sorry. Safe to say I was gutted but understood that family comes first as it does for me.
However I woke up the next day to find ge had changed his relationship status and posted photos in a pub with another girl. They were taken on the night he told me there had been and emergency.
again he ignored me throughout his relationship and then they broke up he came back and started talking to me saying her children kept taking the phone and that she was insecure about him talking to others ect.
this time I told him where to go. I said that I was obviously just a second choice to him and that he had hurt me twice now without even being in a relationship with him.
so in that respect I don’t think I could but I haven’t really been in a full on relationship and had this happen to me.
I was sorry to hear about your experience, but glad that you were strong enough to get through it and cut off contact.