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Age doesn't matter in friendships!!!
It really gets on my nerves that people especially my parents, teachers, classmates and psychologists I've had seeing me having friends of different ages as a problem. Like not having anything in common to discuss or disrupting my studies cuz they're not in the same year group or not having enough time for me. They can always help with schoolwork and come to my defence if anyone's mean to me as they're older and have more experience and anyone of any age can have interests in all sorts of things. Especially as I'm the oldest in my whole family, no siblings and cousins and my parents had me at a bit late age so I tend to want to be friends with people a bit older than me and see them as a big sister/mum figure. And kids in my own year at school bullied me in yr7 and the older years seemed way more interesting and exotic (don't ask what that means, I hate trying to explain stuff like that) and were way more sweeter to me. I so much as got told off for hanging out with them during break, (SUCH a ridiculous po
And why do age-gapped friendships work better amongst boys than girls growing up (cuz we females are emotionally sensitive we're disadvantaged on such stuff!!!). I don't want the rumour of older kids at secondary school being snobs or bullies to somewhat be true. My younger brother has friends a bit older than him and they interact well, they never blank him or talk non-stop to kids in their own year group but hardly know what to say to him or be friendly with him just to be nice or feel sorry for him or wants to toy with him cuz he seems "sweet" or vulnerable instead of genuinely wanting to be friends, unlike what the girls at my school did to me (the ones in my year did it too so no surprise there. I really don't want age gap to have anything to do with any of this. I had a pretty rough secondary school life to sum it all up. At least a few of the decided to keep in touch). No one ever worries about him at this. People are fine with my sister having friends a bit older and younger than her too. (Just cuz they're more extroverted and chattier and less emotionally sensitive than me!!!). Plus the older girls had a few real friends in my own year and pretty close to them. (Im a pretty easy target for fake friendships for looking like an outcast and being nervous and uncomfortable around people and sensitive with "banter" and being questioned personally).