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What does intimacy mean to you?

chubbydumplingchubbydumpling DurhamPosts: 375 Moderator
Intimacy is a term often conflated with sex, but that's not all there is to it. People can be sexual without being intimate, just like people can be intimate without sex being involved. 

Think back on your experiences of intimacy, and of sex, and see if you think there's a difference. Let us know your thoughts in the comments below :)

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  • LaineLaine Llama Mama Posts: 1,400 Fanatical Poster
    edited February 2019
    I definitely feel intimacy and sex is different as you can have one without the other.

    For me intimacy on a daily basis is cuddles/snuggles, kisses,  falling asleep in each others arms, doing things together like playing games,  having laughs. 

    I consider sexual activity intimate in its own way,  especially with some snuggles thrown in after 😂

    Like you said,  you can be sexual alone,  and you can intimate alone,  but you can also have the two together :)

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  • TheAprilFoolTheAprilFool Posts: 187 The Mix convert
    I once saw someone explain it as being when you can feel vulnerable around someone while also feeling safe. I think I would agree with that statement.
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  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 7,369 The Mix Elder

    Intimacy to me means physically touching each other without being sexual or having sex and knowing the person well. And is definetly different to sex. 

    And think intimarcy can lead to sex and intimacy defiently makes better sex. Cause sex without intimacy isnt that great. 

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  • SkyeIsNotTheLimitSkyeIsNotTheLimit EarthPosts: 86 Miniposter
    I think intimacy is being close to someone, so whether that is sexually; physically or emotionally. 

    I always picture it as looking deeply into someone's eyes and for a minute completely forgetting the world around you and being lost in another world 
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  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 699 Incredible Poster
    Agree with a lot of comments above, intimacy to me is more about the little things and feeling safe with someone, whereas sex is... Sex :lol:
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  • independent_independent_ Boards Legend ScotlandPosts: 1,239 Fanatical Poster
    To me intimacy is both physical and emotional, being physically close (sexually or not) and also being able to be honest and vulnerable. There's definitely a difference between intimacy and sex and I think you can definitely have one without the other. 
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  • chubbydumplingchubbydumpling DurhamPosts: 375 Moderator
    Thanks for the reply @Laine ! You gave some really good examples of intimacy. 
  • chubbydumplingchubbydumpling DurhamPosts: 375 Moderator
    That's a really great way of phrasing it @TheAprilFool ! I think being vulnerable physically and emotionally is one of the most intimate things you can do. Having that kind of trust with someone is very special. 
  • chubbydumplingchubbydumpling DurhamPosts: 375 Moderator
    You make some good points @Shaunie ! Especially about physical intimacy being separate from sex. 
  • chubbydumplingchubbydumpling DurhamPosts: 375 Moderator
    That's a great way to look at it @SkyeIsNotTheLimit :)
  • chubbydumplingchubbydumpling DurhamPosts: 375 Moderator
    Safety has come up a few times, and I think you're absolutely right that it's a distinct feature of intimacy @Lucy307
  • chubbydumplingchubbydumpling DurhamPosts: 375 Moderator
    Absolutely @independent_ ! I think you're right that touching doesn't always have to be sexual to be intimate. 
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