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is my *willingness* normal?

im 15 but since i was 12 ive been very very sexually eager. I find myself flirting with everyone i meet with the sole intention of having sex. I refuse to be in long distance and relationships with no sex because thats mainly what im interested in. With my last boyfriend i would just try to have sex with him whenever whereever. I couldnt help it. I dont go even 10 whole minutes without fantasizing about sex. I imagine having sex with strangers and everyone i see. If given the proposition, i take it. Its taking over my mind to think, fantasize, and plan for sex. I watch porn and sexual things all the time like im watching a regular tv show. Is this an obsession or part of being a teenager? 


  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 7,365 The Mix Elder
    Hey and welcome to the boards

    its hard to tell what is ‘normal’ with these sort of things for your age. I personally would say its pretty normal. But i don’t know. I think Everyone experiences puberty differently but i would think is normal. As your hormones are everywhere. And maybe as get older would become less, as youre still v young. But if its something that negatively affects you than maybe something to ask someone about. Do you think it negatively affects you as you dont wanna be thinking about it this much? 
     Is this an obsession or part of being a teenager? 
    I suppose being obsessed with sex is part of being a teenager?

    Have you tried to restrict the amount of time you spend watching porn? You may be in a routine and it can be hard to get out of as your brain is thinking it is what youre suppose to do? But trying to slowly stop and do your best to distract yourself with something instead, could help?

    Imnot sure. Hopefully someone else replies aswell

    take care :)
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  • olivia_reidolivia_reid Posts: 7 Newbie
    I personally dont think its a problem yet. I agree that the hormones are most likely whats causing this but its almost like i cant control myself and i think thats what is gonna become the problem
  • AzzimanAzziman The Mix convert Posts: 591 Extreme Poster
    Hi Olivia,

    Having a higher sex drive is part of puberty, so that's normal. If it becomes distressing and overwhelming, you could seek advice online for ways to make life more comfortablex

    Much love <3
  • LaineLaine Llama Mama Posts: 1,395 Fanatical Poster
    Hormones can definitely play a part especially at your age and will impact your sex drive.   
    Mine is from the contraceptive implant I am currently on as that is known to affect it as well. 

    What you are feeling is perfectly normal although expanding on that, I think it's fairly easy for anything to become an addiction or obsession and if it's impacting your life daily it might be beneficial to cut down on the porn and such and do some other things like exercising or finding a hobby maybe? 

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  • PuffinEthicsPuffinEthics Posts: 74 Moderator
    Hi @olivia_reid

    Perhaps its something to worry about if it starts really affecting your life. 
    Watching lots of porn may be affecting you?
    This article may help

    You may find some other helpful articles here

    But generally what the other Mixers have said here is great. 

    Have you talked to your friends at all about it? There's lots of difference between people but it might help to talk it out? It depends whether you feel comfortable doing that. 

    Thanks for sharing,

  • peachysoopeachysoo Posts: 151 The Mix convert
    Hey olivia_reid,

    It is normal for the majority of people to have a sex drive, and especially common for teenagers and during puberty due to hormonal changes. It's not something you can really fully control, because to an extent, it is purely due to our own biology and chemistry. It's only natural for some people to have a higher desire for sexual acts than others.

    However, it can become a bit problematic if it starts to negatively affect your daily life. If it prevents you from going about doing the essential tasks, or if it starts to make you feel a bit down (affecting your mental health), then it could be worth seeking guidance.

    Any type of obsession isn't really ideal, but so long as you are happy, coping and are safe with how things are, then there's no issue as far as I can see, other than ensuring you're not breaking any laws (the legal age to give sexual consent is 16 in the UK, but it varies between different countries, and perhaps it doesn't always work like the idea behind the age given legally i.e. you may mature earlier than normal and feel knowledgeable enough to feel you can consent)


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