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Feeling isolated and scared
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Hiya im just wondering if any other young people out there feel like this to? Im really seriously struggling at the moment ive ended up in a really difficult situation and im feeling very alone atm also. Im 24 and im suffering very severly from anxiety and depression because of this and im so overwhelmed and feel i have no one to turn to. I dont feel i have any friends and i have been spending all of my time alone. I had a friend that i used to be close to but she has changed so much i havent seen her for months and i dont have a partner either. Ive had a lot of bad experiences in the last few years. Im really suffering the loss of this friend as that friendship was a good one and i really dont want to lose it we were bestfriends and having no friends and starting over is extremly distressing for me and upsetting. I do work but i feel very unsure about what career i really want to do and im just not sure where my life is headed im scared. My friend really hurt me and has beeen constantly arguing with me for months over text so this has made my situation 1000x worse. My anxiety is so extreme it holds me back and stops me doing things. Ive tried my hardest to improve my situation but i cant seem to fix it😭 please be gentle with me in response to my message as im honestly fragile atm xoxox
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Sorry to hear what you've been through - it sounds like there are a lot of things that are causing you stress, making your anxiety worse and thus holding you back. As a young person, I can definitely relate to some things you've said! This "friend" is causing you nothing but trouble and pain now - I know that it can be hard being alone, but that is far better than being put down and hurt every time by this awful "friend". Cut them out completely - block, remove number and never message. Enough damage has been done already!
As for work, I've learned that it's okay not to know for definite - I can relate to that feeling! For now, pick something you like and really go for it - if you like it, you can stay, otherwise you can go to another company (if the company wasn't great) or another job sector (if you don't like the work). But choose something, otherwise you'll be left with no job or income! You can always change down the line - I know a colleague who changed profession atleast 5 times and isn't even 40 yet!x
For the anxiety, I think you need more support. If you haven't already, see a GP (for medication), and arrange a meeting with a counsellor or therapist. In addition, some workplaces offer support for people with mental illnesses, so that could be useful when looking for a job. I'd also contact Mind for advice, and Samaritans if you need to vent/discuss your problems - I know that doesn't replace having a good friend to talk to, but it's far better than keeping everything bottled up! Finally, I'd suggest looking into mindfulness and meditation as a self-care approach to managing anxiety - I found it's worked for myself and several people I know, so I'd strongly recommend it!x
Here to support you through this!x
Much love
I really relate to how you are feeling and am sending you massive hugs
Have you thought about or tried using one of the online/phone counselling services? There's some really good links at the end of this article http://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/anxiety-ocd-and-phobias/what-is-anxiety-5598.html - let us know what you think?
Hope things improve, here for you as and when you need
- Lucy
Hey @barbara141093
How are you doing? I agree that talking to a close friend about it might really help, sometimes we just need to release and let it out to someone else. Be kind to yourself - if you would not judge your friend for opening up, chances are they won't judge you either. I think it's worth it, if you feel comfortable to
- Lucy
I'm soo glad you opened up to a friend, it can be really scary but sounds like she reacted well and cares about you too
- Lucy
Your anxiety about this is understandable, but you clearly care a lot about the situation, so hopefully this works and it becomes more positive.
You are definitely right to say that friends shouldn't make you feel bad, and your mental health is very important, so perhaps you could try focusing on something else. Do you have any hobbies or any forms of exercise you enjoy? Something to take your mind off this could be useful!
I hope you feel a bit better! We're here to listen if you want to say anything else