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Is everyone's feelings towards sex represented in sex education at school?

AifeAife LondonPosts: 2,028 Staff Moderator

Hey everyone,

Do you feel like everyone's feelings towards sex are represented in sex education at school?

- Aife
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] Noob Posts: 0 Noob
    In the UK, sex and relationship education (SRE) is compulsory from age 11 onwards, except it doesn’t promote early sexual activity or any particular sexual orientation; therefore parents can withdraw their children from all other parts of sex and relationship education if they want. There again, parents aren't always aware that their children may be gay or be confused over their sexuality which education doesn't cover, also the child may not feel courageous enough at their school to speak up about it. Maybe there should be a review of the UK government ruling as per its present curriculum?
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  • Tee ATee A Posts: 24 Cool Newbie
    Hey @Aife

    ​From my experience of sexual education in school, I did not feel like everyone's feelings towards sex was well represented. My school portrayed sex as a act of procreation only i.e. only men and women had sex for the purpose of a having a child. They never discussed the types of sexuality. At my younger sisters school they did not have sexual education classes at all! I had to educate her.

    ​I hope nowadays children are being taught about sex and sexuality much more than I was. This would also help children learn and become accepting of others.

    -Tee A :wave:
  • AzzimanAzziman The Mix convert Posts: 512 Extreme Poster
    Hi @Aife,

    From my experience, I'd agree with @Tee A in that sex is primarily portrayed as an act of procreation. I think that it's important to know about the emotional side of sex, and different types as well - it's not a one-size-fits-all activity! The issue of sex being "the holy grail" in high school is also something that wasn't addressed at allx

    Much love <3
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,158 The Mix Elder
    Think they definetly could of talked about different feelings towards peoples views, opinions or expereinces on sex, in school education. Would of been helpful, i think
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  • peachysoopeachysoo Posts: 151 The Mix convert
    I don't think we were ever taught anything about relationships or sex regularly at school (or, at least, nothing more than "this is a penis" "this is a vagina" "wear protection" ...), though we had several days where we had external organisations come visit us and encourage us to learn about safe sex and start discussions about basic things related to sex and relationships (laws, safety, STIs etc.). That said, we have had at least 1 opportunity during these sessions to bring up whatever topic related to these things that we liked, such as age gap relationships or sexual orientation. From my experiences, though, the school environment isn't always the most ideal place to learn about it, if you're surrounded by many other students, or at least until you're a bit older, mature, and open-minded, because some people may still mess around and it can be quite a sensitive topic for some - it might be better to learn about it in smaller groups. We have done sex ed a little bit in our "personal development" lessons in Sixth Form. but they weren't so successful. We didn't really learn anything new, or discuss everything we could've, but, again, the class is quite big and so it mightn't be the best place to talk about it anyway. It's a real shame.

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