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Adulthood is a massive disappointment
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When I was growing up, I was told that all of my problems were childhood and/or adolescent issues and that I wouldn't have to put up with any of those things once I'm an adult. I was also told that that I'd have freedom in adulthood and that I'd be respected as an equal - and that the appalling behaviour that I was the victim of when I was growing up doesn't exist among adults.
The reality of my adult life is a horrifying disappointment. I still suffer from most of the problems that I endured whilst growing up. I don't have much freedom. I'm not valued or respected as an equal - I'm looked down upon for being poor, for not being good-looking, for not being into various things, for not being successful etc. Middle-class people look down on me for not having a university degree. Underclass people look down on me for not having served a prison sentence. Many older people still consider me to be "a kid", even though I'm in my twenties. Some of them have dismissed what I say and tell me that they're right and I have to obey their orders by telling me: "I've got kids your age!". The juvenile behaviour of many of my colleagues at some of the places that I've worked at is just like it was in the school playground - despite physically being adults, they've not psychologically reached adulthood.
The reality of my adult life is a horrifying disappointment. I still suffer from most of the problems that I endured whilst growing up. I don't have much freedom. I'm not valued or respected as an equal - I'm looked down upon for being poor, for not being good-looking, for not being into various things, for not being successful etc. Middle-class people look down on me for not having a university degree. Underclass people look down on me for not having served a prison sentence. Many older people still consider me to be "a kid", even though I'm in my twenties. Some of them have dismissed what I say and tell me that they're right and I have to obey their orders by telling me: "I've got kids your age!". The juvenile behaviour of many of my colleagues at some of the places that I've worked at is just like it was in the school playground - despite physically being adults, they've not psychologically reached adulthood.
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PS: I'm no adult, so don't really have much personal experience to go on here :P
I didn't expect it to happen overnight - I expected it to be a gradual process during my late teens. I didn't think that most of what I was told were "adolescent problems" would persist strongly during my twenties.
At no age do you have to get drunk. Despite what some people claim, it's not compulsory.
Is there a realistic risk of your parents kicking you out? Have they indicated that you won't be welcome at home for much longer?