can sexting boost your sex life?

Ed_

Happy Monday! There's been a lot in the press recently about how sexting is a really negative thing, and there are certainly some problematic areas (just like sex, this should always be consentual :yes:) but then is it good to only focus on the negatives and not also acknowledge the positives?

For example, sexting can help introduce sex into a relationship...giving an idea of each other's likes and dislikes and starting to feel more comfortable with each other in this way in a less pressured situation :yippe:

It would be really interesting to hear your thoughts :chin: ... do you think sexting can help improve relationships? Would you ever use it in this way?

Former Member

I think it could be a good thing... like obv it is down to personal tastes. For example if you are in a situation where you cant be with your significant other a lot of the time it could/be a way of keeping things fresh and exciting. I personally see no problem with it as long as it is consensual and a bit of fun but its ok to do it as well as it being ok to not do it..

Ed_

Definitely some interesting points here @Past User - long-distance relationships can be hard to keep the same level of intimacy and so can see how sexting could help strengthen these relationships...equally as you say, keeping things fresh is good for any relationship. I think you've hit the nail on the head, as long as people feel comfortable to make the choice that's right for them then there is nothing wrong with it...

Be interesting to see whether this is an opinion that is shared across The Mix community...

JustV

Haha, that meme...
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Anyway, just wanted to offer my take with more of a user hat on. I would personally agree with everything about introducing that intimacy in to a relationship; having that slope up to it can be much nicer than going straight in to physical stuff for some people, particularly if you're anxious about it for whatever reason. Exploration can be so important for sexual relationships and this can be a pretty good way to go about it. The point about long distance relationships is also a great one - trying to keep that spark alive can be a bit of a task without something to keep you going during the away periods!

Ultimately (as has already been said) I don't think there's anything wrong with it if you're comfortable and aware that whatever it is you're sending (whether it be messages, pictures, whatever) has a sort of permanence that verbal and physical things don't. Not that this is usually a problem as such, especially if you trust the person you're doing it with and everything is above board, or if you're just not bothered. Just something to be aware of.