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What's the big deal with age gaps?
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Why do people get so hung up with age gaps in relationships. I'm not even talking about huge gaps here! It's generally more accpeted when you're with someone older but even then people still get worked up about it. What's everyone's opinons here. I'm a 17 year old female by the way.
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The Silly String
But within reason, i dont see why there should be a problem with it at all
My best friend is 20 and has a boyfriend who is 25. They've been together for 2 years now. She was still in sixth form and he worked full time, she got some stick for it but they're happy.
The only point at which I draw the line is under 16s having relationships with anyone much older - maybe some young teenagers are more mature than others, but at the end of the day I think all of them are too impressionable and you do wonder what the older partner is after.
I knew a couple of 11/12 year olds who went out with a couple of 16 year olds. At least one of the couples slept together. :rolleyes:
I think age differences matter much less when you are older. The children I mentioned above had an age difference of 4/5 years between them and their boyfriends, yet an age difference of 5 years between a 27 and a 33 year old wouldn't shock anyone. I think it's much more to do with maturity than anything else, and what older partners want from the relationshop (anything from good sex to settling down and having a family). If both partners want the same thing, there shouldn't be any problem with age differences.
Especially when it's my fucking girlfriend he's nicked :mad:
Experience makes me bitter.
don't worry, he'll treat her like crap and she'll regret it and realise your great..
by that time you will be able to not give a fuck about her... well you know what i mean.
TRUST!
oh yeah back to topic, age gaps that i don't like is 15 year olds with anyone above that. From many a time research, they don't know how to make it work and break hearts. thats why i ain't gonna go far from my age at all.
Correct
Which is why it happened almost 2 years ago, and now I don't give a fuck about her.
I never really agreed with age gaps like that even before that :eek2:
oh all the numbers! :eek: never any good at maths!!
personally i think that's wrong.
a 14 year old and an 18 year old are at very different stages in their emotional development.
you can say age doesn't matter til you're blue in the face, but if you're under 18 age matters. a lot.
if you're over 18 get with whoever you want, but before then you're still a kid and should stick to going out with other kids.
They can't go to any pubs or out clubbing because she is far too young. If she has responsible parents surely they ask her to be home by 9.30pm at the latest? How can you maintain that kind of relationship? I mean, some 14 year olds haven't even developed fully? What is there to find sexually attractive in a 14 year old child when you're a fully grown adult?
So far people have used the guy as the older one of the two in their examples, so I'm just curious.
They're equally wrong imho.
Dont ppl say that girls mature 2 years ahead of guys so really its like 18 & 16? or aint i makin any sense?
It does not matter what their mental age is, in all honesty, girls are more mature at 16 than blokes will be when they're 25, but only in some respects.
Blah, Thats what joo believe
End of the day, if ur with someone u like then ur with someone u like... and if you like them it doesnt matter what age. U aint gotta be with people for anyone else but yourself.
It does have more of an effect when your younger but it doesnt mean the effect is totally negative. If u go thru life not experiencing and experimenting when your young you wind up knowing about as much as a taxi driver.
yes i used to believe age didn't matter as it was drilled into me by my ex girlfriend whose 15 when i'm 17..oooh ooh i'm 18 now!
but anyway. her maturity was never helping things and thats why she is an ex
however much we all want to believe the main factor is you like eachother, the other factors such as maturity make a massive impact.
i've seen this arguement so many times on this site. 14/15/16 maybe even 17 year olds should stick to own ages really for best effects!
obviously its not a rule and there will be exceptions, its jus it is unfourtuantly true.