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How much time do you spend with your girlfriend/boyfriend?
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per week, lets say.
I am just wondering because I feel lonely and a bit like a convenience because some (mentioning no names) chose to spend only one day with me after we had 9 days of free time away from school with no obligations. She had homework sure, and she is allowed to see her friends, just she gives me the impression I'm only there to 'fill the gap'.
So how much time do you spend with your relevant other per week, 1 day? or less. If you can only see each other on weekends because of work or something then say so. With me and 'her' we live close by and so it should be no problem just she always comes up with excuses.
Her mum said she should invite me round when she is doing homework, she said no because I'm too much of a distraction....
I am just wondering because I feel lonely and a bit like a convenience because some (mentioning no names) chose to spend only one day with me after we had 9 days of free time away from school with no obligations. She had homework sure, and she is allowed to see her friends, just she gives me the impression I'm only there to 'fill the gap'.
So how much time do you spend with your relevant other per week, 1 day? or less. If you can only see each other on weekends because of work or something then say so. With me and 'her' we live close by and so it should be no problem just she always comes up with excuses.
Her mum said she should invite me round when she is doing homework, she said no because I'm too much of a distraction....
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In answer to ur question i see my bf on set days after work tuedsday 6-10 (he has to leave then to get train home) thursday 6-10, friday 6-sunday 6 (i sleep over his at weekends although its not alone time, we see his mates 2) so we spend a fair bit of time together but we have been together over a year and a half and were in love so we spend as much time 2gether as we can. How long have u and ur gf been together? When me n my fella first got 2 gether it was once-twice a week because of school etc.
grrr im jealous. when me and 'the girl' spend time together on a normal week, it might be once a day maybe thursday, and itll only be like from 3:20 - 5:00.
most weekends she goes town with her friends or by herself. says she prefers her own company....
somehow i dont think so.
either way i love her and its eating me up because whenever i do spend time with her its great. just its almost never that i do spend time with her. ive tried talking about it to her and she says she does like spending time with me but she is just busy. but her mum says its no problem....
oh yea we are both 15 so not very old but still not spending much time together i think...
We also have the same friendship group so tend to hang out with each other at weekends / evenings too, although we aren't al over each other, pawing at one another and continually snogging, I think we're past that stage now, lol!
We do go out with other friends on our own, he plays football with friends and I pop to the pub or have coffee in town etc. We have "alone" time but mainly together time. Some may say it is unhealthy to see each other so often but we find it works for us - we're very close friends as well as lovers!
ShyBoy - stop treading on eggshells with Laura. I think it about time you asked her if she actually wants a relationship with you or just wants you there as something convenient when she has nothing better to do. So what if she dumps you because you "dare" to ask what is going on? You don't need thankind of relationship with someone. Someone who isn't prepared to actually be with you isn't worth your time and effort in my opinion.
you 'love' her, unbelievable and on what do you base this supposition, have you done a fucking 'how in lave are you?' test on the internet somewhere, or a compatibility bullshit test, get over it and stop sounding quite so pathetic and needy.
You've got to talk to Laura, get things in the open. If you can't talk to her, then you can't be mature enough for a relationship and you're kidding yourself that you're in love. It's just a young infatuation. If you want to be serious, you have to be mature and air your problems to her.
Shyboy - ignore him.
But seriously, I think you should talk to her and tell her that you'd like to see her more often.
I agree that mrkikiet didn't have to be quite so rude as he was.
At the minute he's working nights, 6 nights a week, and I'm at uni or working 4 days a week so it's hard to find time to see each other, we are always busy. Maybe once or twice a week now. Hopefully he'll be swapping to days soon though cos I don't like this at all!
Although ShyBoy I'm guessing that's not really what this post's about, it's about you worrying why Laura doesn't seem to have much time / priority for you. Am i right?
You should talk to her if you feel upset and would like to see her more - maybe she has no idea. Also, don't stifle her and make her feel trapped when she's with you because that could be why she's trying to get away a little - just enjoy her company and make sure she has a good time, instead of being too intense. You should really clear it up though because most relationships at your / our age (I'm 17) tend to break up because one person is more into the relationship than the other is, and this needs to be addressed. Am I making sense? Basically, talk to her, tell her you'd like to see her more and ask her if there's a reason she's apparently been avoiding seeing you over the past few weeks or however long it is.
Hope I've helped, sorry if it's all a load of waffly rubbish!
I talk to him on the internet since he lives so far away. I talk to him on the 'net for about 1 or 2 hours sunday-thursday night (except if he has to work, like 2 days a week, then it's about 45 min) then Friday nights (every other week for the weekend days anyway, I hardly get to go on the net at my Dad's house) I stay on till the early mornings till like 3, or 4 am... So then it's about 6 hours... On Saturday's we talk for hours if he doesn't have to work, for say like over 12 hours... And then a bunch of hours on Sunday.
In case you didn't understand any of that, my boyfriend and I just talk as much as possible since we can't do anything else.
And I agree, mrkikiet didnt need to be so rude.
Shyboy, just talk to her.It seems that this is the only way that this problem can be resolved, by talking. Good luck
Shy boy...I think you are about to learn a valuable relationship lesson. that is that you cannot expect your partner to crreate a social life for you, she will always want time on her own...and as your relationship matures and develops you will have times when you want to be on your own or with different friends without her.
The sooner you learn to deal with this the better and it will improve your relationships.
Why not take advantage of the time you have on your own and take this chance to meet up with some of your friends that you might have been neglecting, or spend a day with your family or go to see a film, even if you have to go on your own. It will show your girlfriend that you can be on your own and will give you interesting things to talk about.
hope things stay ok in your relationship.