Am I a slut?

BillieTheBot · May 2002

I need your help!
I have a reputaion as being a bit of a slut.
I personally dont think i am ive only had consenting sex with 2 peopleand 1 sort of sex but not thing when i was drunk.

but some how people think im a slut.
yes when i get drunk i i do silly things i know that.
and yes i kiss a lot of people but in my area kissing is nothing.
i just dnt understand why people call me a slut.
if you can make sence of my total waffle of a question would you be so kind as to help me.
thank you.

ZELLA

Former Member · May 2002

yeah, yeah...

But are you *easy*??

Former Member · May 2002

Former Member · May 2002

You are probably not being totally honest, with either yourself or the rest of us.

You must be giving your friends some reason for calling you a slut !! <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member · May 2002

I agree. There's no smoke without fire.

And what in heaven's name of a planet is your signature on? Make it make sense... and spelt....

Former Member · May 2002

Originally posted by DJP:
And what in heaven's name of a planet is your signature on? Make it make sense... and spelt....

I like yours <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Except that it's in the wrong order <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member · May 2002

Right then, dammit, will change it.... Better?

Former Member · May 2002

Originally posted by DJP:
Right then, dammit, will change it.... Better?

Very good <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member · May 2002

You've already slept with 2 people and your only 15. That's an indication that for being so young, you already have a good taste for dishing it out. And in addition to that if one presents themselves out in public a certain way(especially around a bunch of teenagers who like to gossip) they will be percieved that way even if they're not.

Former Member · May 2002

Two people and you're only 15...and one when you were drunk... <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

I wholly understand why they call you a slut.
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Former Member · May 2002

Bit harsh people , its the same old thing ...if Zella was a bloke you'd all be saying well done!
Ok 2 people b4 you are legal may seem more than usual. But saying that one of my best friends lost his V at 13. Were you in a relationship with these guys? The one drunken thing happens to all of us once.

The question you need to ask is are people calling you a slut because you have had sex will 2 (or 3) people or because you snog everyone? If its just snogging , then just calm yourself down a bit (but don't stop having fun).
Regarding your other "daft things" you do when drunk please explain?

Take Care

Former Member · May 2002

alcohol and sex dont mix!

Former Member · May 2002

well wat u have said in your first post i would say no.

Former Member · May 2002

There is no definition of a slut. What matters is how you view yourself. Some people woulld define a slut as someone who has slept with 5 people whereas others would think 5 is nothing. People love to criticise others. The way I see it, if you are mature enough to know what you are doing, are not hurting anyone (including yourself), and being careful, it doesn't matter what anyone else says.

At school I was called a slag just for sleeping with 1 person, who cares? The next day they will be bitching about someone else.

But if you do things you regret when drunk you need to be moe careful.

Former Member · May 2002

No your not a slut, people will say that but ignore them, I remember saying the same things about a girl at school and at the same time being jealous as hell that she had a sex life! Although saying that be careful out there especially where alcohol is concerned

Former Member · May 2002

Look, your 15 and all ready getting drunk and spreading your legs for multiple partners. Its no mystery why your peers percieve you as a slut. Your actions speak for themselves. Anyone who says otherwise on this post probably sleeps around too much themselves and are just trying to justify their own habits as being acceptable. The fact that they call themselves names like juicy and pussycat supports that theory.

Former Member · May 2002

And your name indicates that you are diseased. You are judgemental and stuck up. And jealous no doubt. Fuck off.

Former Member · May 2002

Look your 15 and already getting drunk and spreading your legs for multiple partners

i dont think that you can say that to her,

she could have been in a loving relationship with the 2 people she has slept with so i dont think you could call that being a slut
and as for getting drunk at 15 well you might want to see what other 15 year olds(and younger) do these days most people (ok maybe not all) but most 15 year olds have been drunk before

so Zella i dont think you sound like a slut
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but just be carefull

[ 30-05-2002: Message edited by: **sugar** ]

Former Member · May 2002

pussycat: Viridus is short for Dendroaspis Viridis and its a latin name that has nothing to do with disease.

I kinda meant my last comment as a joke, but you sure did get defensive so maybe I was right on. Its ok if you want to sleep around a bit it your body. I'd be a hypocrite if I stated otherwise. But as unfortunate as it is, a young girl who gets drunk and goes about in that manner is going to be labled in derogatory ways, especially at the age of 15 when the vast majority of girls are still getting their tits felt or a pinky in their vagina.

These days when I don't run around presenting my penis in various places that could get me in trouble, I'm quite proud of myself and certainly not jealous of others who do.

Former Member · May 2002

viridis, nevertheless comments like that do not read as joking around, they read as immature and hostile remarks which have no place in a supportive community like this.

Getting drunk at 15 isnt all that shocking. heck, I'm 37 and even I started drinking beer at 13 with the help of older friends. Furthermore, the original poster stated clearly that she cared very deeply for the two people she slept with which is not "running around spreading her legs..."

If you don't have helpful comments to make to our younger set, please refrain from commenting at all. Thanks.

Former Member · May 2002

Yes and PussyKatty means a small feline creature that I happen to like <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

People judge others all through life. What matters most is yourself and how you feel (and not hurting anyone else).

For the record, I'm not a slut although as I have not saved myself for marriage and have slept with more than 1 person then some may consider me to be. But I don't really care.

Former Member · May 2002

sugar: I never actually referred to her as a slut. I was simply stating that you have to be careful how you present yourself around your peers b/c people see what they want to see. Also, I didn't get the whole story, but I find it hard to believe that the age of 15, she has had the time and maturity to be in 2 loving relationships that led to nice wholesome sex. How long does it usually take you to fall in love and become intimate? If my little sisters were that way at that age and I knew about it I would be more than a little disturbed.

Former Member · May 2002

im 15 and in my year at school quite a lot of girls have lost their virginity (or so they say). My theory is that it depends who u hang around with as to whether u get called a slut. For example, if most of your friends have slept with people then you're more likely to get accepted and not called a slut.
But if none of your friends have slept with anyone then it may be seen as being out of the ordinary in which case people may call you a slut. I know if I lost my virginity then I would get called a slut because I don't think anyone would expect it from me.

Does anyone understand any of that?
Loopy loz xxx

Former Member · May 2002

I am 15 and have slept with 2 people. I had been going out with both of the guys for at least 5 months. the first one was drunken yes but the other we were very happy together and it felt right. it is nothing to do with being a slut. don't worry about what other people say. i got called a slut after i had sex the first time but i just ignored them and it was all ok. So don't worry don't let other people judge you.

Former Member · May 2002

I never critisized her for drinking but when juice implied that she ignore what others say they are probably just jealous they are not getting any, its kinda like saying it ok for a 15 year old to have sex. Sorry pussykatty, I went back and read you post and I guess its not so supportive of her having sex, but you just have to remember the age here. I tend to think my blunt honesty gets the message across clearer. I do not think 15 is an appropriate or responsible age to be having sex. I think if you do and you drink and hook up with lots of guys around your friends, they will label you as slutty and if you don't like that then use better judgement. It doesn't matter how one defines slut, it only matters if your acting responsibly, feel bad for what you are doing, or dislike your peers labeling you. So whether we define her as a slut is somewhat irrelovent, its the fact that her peers are calling her that. I think she should present herself more carefully if she wants to prevent it.

Former Member · May 2002

Originally posted by mr turbo head:
Two people and you're only 15...and one when you were drunk... <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

I wholly understand why they call you a slut.
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i sed no to him but he carried on! it wasnt my fault! <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member · May 2002

Originally posted by viridis:
I find it hard to believe that the age of 15, she has had the time and maturity to be in 2 loving relationships that led to nice wholesome sex.

i fact i have so there!
i met one when i was 12 and one at 14.

Former Member · May 2002

I don't think that makes you a slut. There are people in my year and below who sleep with men alot older than them but it's up to them what they want to do. It doesn't really make them slut's, and like you said you were in a relationship with two of them. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member · May 2002

I'm sorry Zella, but you can not convince me that you were old enough and mature enough at age 12 to be in love and have sexual relationships. I was still collecting transformers and counting pubic hairs at that age. In fact, I'm not sure if I had ever pleasured myself at that age. You mentioned you had unconsenting sex to. Did you ever stop to consider that when you get drunk and flirtatous in public that you present yourself as more of a target for gerky guys who are just trying to get some?

Former Member · May 2002

You sound like you were a very immature and backward 15 year old then. Sorry! But collecting transformers?

Former Member · May 2002

oooh, ya got me there pussykat. I actually said 12 not 15. I can't remember exactly, but in the U.S. that puts me in middle school about the 6th grade. Sorry, I wasn't out screwing girls and falling in love although we did play a little truth or dare. By the way when you said you slept with more than one person and if that makes you a slut so be it, exactly how many does mean? Does that mean 2 b/c if so I don't think think your a slut. But I'd be willing to bet its more than that and you just didn't want to disclose numbers, especially if you think having sex at the age of 12 is OK.

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