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My friend has just asked me out - help?
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I am not sure what I'm asking for; but any advice would be appreciated:
A friend of mine asked me out for dinner and I said yes. We got into his car to come home and we got talking and then he asked me out. I paused and then asked if he really meant it and he said he's serious and he said to ignore the age gap. (I'm 24 and he's 38) I ended up telling him I'm not sure. I've never had a relationship.
He dropped me home and said to think about it.
A friend of mine asked me out for dinner and I said yes. We got into his car to come home and we got talking and then he asked me out. I paused and then asked if he really meant it and he said he's serious and he said to ignore the age gap. (I'm 24 and he's 38) I ended up telling him I'm not sure. I've never had a relationship.
He dropped me home and said to think about it.
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Do you really like this guy? I really liked my ex and when we finally got together it was the best feeling in the world!
Not forgetting to think about whether you think about him in a romantic way at all...
I was with a guy a few months ago who was 40 (I'm 25). It was awesome.
If you like him, go for it. If you don't, don't. Simples
I admit I am unsure. I've never had a relationship before. I mentioned it to my dad who just said go for it. He vaguely knows the friend. (he's called on me a few times)
The age doesn't really bother me.
I have spoken to others who have just go for it, which I think I'm going to do and see how it all goes.
I have to admit that I'm really unsure about being with him and everyone I've talked to, has said to just dump him. He wasn't happy last week because I said I couldn't meet him on Saturday.
I texted him earlier and said I can't make tomorrow and wasn't sure I wanted to be with him. His reply was "ok, see you soon". Anyone else find this odd?
If you don't think you want to be with him that's absolutely fine. Is it because you don't really like him that much? Or another reason?
I do think his reply is a little odd, you'd think he would want to talk about it, but I don't know.
There are a few reasons why I don't want to be with him - I don't think I really like him, the age gap and I have nothing (aside from running) in common with him.
I was expecting him to want to talk too.
10 days isn't really a long time, how many times have you met up with him? But then I think that there would be some sort of spark.
I don't have much experience, only had one proper boyfriend. I fancied him for ages so I was really happy and excited when we got together.
I have aspergers and usually if I don't like a guy that much I avoid him, pretend I have plans or something until he gets bored of trying. It sounds a little like what you're doing.
We've met up twice.
I think your last sentence is right. He mentioned that tonight there's a race on which I normally do. I said I couldn't go because I am elsewhere. There are a few reasons that have nothing to do with him why I didn't want to go, (I have a gig next week and need to practise) and I wasn't sure if I really wanted to see him. Part of cancelling tomorrow is that he wants to meet in town around 4.30pm. It's late night shopping tomorrow and I simply can't deal with that many people. It was bad enough on Monday lunchtime.
It's completely up to you what you decide, but if you carry on it's just going to keep making you more unhappy. That's what happens with me. I do think there would be some sort of spark if there was anything between you two, but to me it just sounds like a one way thing at the moment.
One thing I can't understand, is he told me not to tell a certain person and said "when you're ready, we'll tell the group". (the person is our running coach)
You'll find the right person one day
Someone's keen! Did he reply?
is it so wrong that I want space? I dumped him on Wednesday and have only had 2 days where he hasn't contacted me.
Woah, that must be a shock, especially as you're not dating! Marriage is a massive step anyway, when you are in a relationship.
What did you say?
I'm really not sure where all this came from. He asked on Monday if we could go for lunch on Friday and originally, I said no because I'd made plans with another friend. Other friend cancelled on me and I said I'd go for lunch with him, thinking it was just two friends meeting up.