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fallen in love with my driving instructor
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hiya my name is gina and basically the story is that i have a driving instructor called Andrew and the moment i met him he made my heart skip and the more an more i seen him the more i fell in love with him i sent him a poem to his email yesterday and i got a reply which was
Hi Gina,
Thanks for your honesty, and I was a bit concerned when you sent a text to me earlier today. Of course I am still happy to be your instructor. I hope we can keep it just as a professional relationship and get you through your test soon.
Andrew
since i have had this email ive done nothing but cry and feel so low. i have a driving lesson with him in the next few days and im really scared what should i do? if anyone has been in this situation please help me thanks in advance xxx
Hi Gina,
Thanks for your honesty, and I was a bit concerned when you sent a text to me earlier today. Of course I am still happy to be your instructor. I hope we can keep it just as a professional relationship and get you through your test soon.
Andrew
since i have had this email ive done nothing but cry and feel so low. i have a driving lesson with him in the next few days and im really scared what should i do? if anyone has been in this situation please help me thanks in advance xxx
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Welcome to the site. Well done for posting . Have u tried speaking to him about and tell him how ur feel about it or tried speakin to ur famliey about it. Its nateral to fall in love with someone u like
U could try and phoneing the samations about ur feeling low
08457909090 they will be able to support u about ur feelings. Ur welcome to post on here to. We are here for u
You wouldn't be lost, obviously you can already drive somewhat. And the more you see him the worse it'll be
The fact you're saying you be lost if you didn't see him every week just shows how unhealthy this is. If you're sending him poems and crying over him and thinking like this then continuing to see him is only going to make things worse. It puts him in an awkward position too.
I suggest changing instructors
You need to move on. You're not deliberately failing tests so you can carry on with his tuition are you?
When im on lessons with him im completely different
Try not to be embarrassed at what has happened, he's almost certainly had it before - regular meetings with someone dedicating their time to another in a one-to-one and physically close space can lead to emotional feelings developing. I'm sure if he is as professional as his reply to you he will do everything to put you at your ease.
See how you feel after the lesson. If you think you can cope, carry on having lessons with him, if you can't, switch.
i find it hard to do lessons now before i told him its just his voice and accent its so sweet. i couldnt switch at all thanks for replying and trying to understand what its like. xx
At some point you're going to stop seeing him, either when you pass the test, when you choose to switch to another instructor, or he decides he's not able to give you the help you need to learn to drive.
you might find some help in the articles theSite put together on unrequited love and coping with a crush
if I had sent a poem to somebody I had feelings for and they replied with that I would feel silly for sending it! I think it is embarrassing for him, you've put him in an awkward position, and by the way that he said he was 'concerned' about the text you sent him earlier he sounds a bit embarrassed.
he has said that he wants to carry on being my instructor so im hoping it stays that way and yeah i know im going to stop seeing him once ive passed but i know i have to then. thanks ill have a look at them now x
i dont feel silly at all because i had to tell him i couldnt hide it anymore. yeah but my text was a bit strange thats why but i explained to him about the text.