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That's why I asked, it's not always pleasant being there. I, like you, would have been glad of a quick ending. More hugs for you.
I'm glad Fiend asked this, because this is important. I can't remember how old you are B-A, but I went through this at 22 and it was horrific. Fortunately for my Dad it was only about 8 hours rather than 36, but I had a very similar experience to you. If you do need to talk about it, please PM.
Do try and take comfort in the fact that she's no longer suffering. There's a poem I posted in WhiteLillie's thread about thoughts being with the living, have a read of that
I was asked if I want to say anything at the funeral but said no. I feel like I want to say something at the funeral, but I can't think of anything meaningful to say. Quite depressed at the moment. The miserable weather isn't helping.
If there is anything you would have liked to say, you could still say it. Write it down, say it out loud, or even whisper it.
I often think things about both people and pets, about how much I miss them, how much I would have liked to meet them. Usually to a photograph or keepsake of theirs. I know it seems silly, but it helps me.
Thinking of you. xx *hug*
It's all relevant hun xx.
I'd learnt it pretty well and so tried to do it from memory rather than from the sheet I had printed out. I got to the last couplet of the poem, which is supposed to say "Do not stand at my grave and cry, I am not there, I did not die" and ended up saying "Do not stand at my grave and die..." and quickly correcting myself!
A pm is always welcome.
I love that poem.
I also like the song '10,000 miles' Have you heard it? My mother wants it played at her funeral.
Hi BA,
Firstly, really sorry for your loss
I think funerals can be quite strange and really hope you don't feel under pressure to say something at the funeral. Your relationship with your nan was meaningful and nothing can take away from that. I'm not sure about your feelings around death but I personally don't think the funeral is the last and only chance to commemorate someone's memory. Grieving, thinking of memories and sharing those memories with loved ones for me anyway, holds a lot more value than a speech/reading at a funeral. Thinking of you
That's beautiful, though I was expecting it to by more heartwrenching that I actually found it. To this day I still can't listen to John Lennon's Imagine, as it was my Dad's favourite song and the one we walked out of the funeral to.
We're here for you whenever you need a hug. *hug*
While at their funeral I always try to think of happy memories of that person, it helps me.
Thinking of you xx *hug*
*hug* *hug*
Nina x