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Things you wished the opposite sex knew
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Just a fun thread really, but there are things I've very seldom said in relationships because obviously you don't want to hurt your partner, but things that seemingly the opposite sex doesn't seem to realise. So a contribution each 
nothing too scathing I guess
To women:
We actually don't care that much what you look like if we already love you. Looks make a difference at first impressions, after that we just want to be with you whatever you look like. We do get put off by the continual self-loathing and 'I look ugly' though.
nothing too scathing I guessTo women:
We actually don't care that much what you look like if we already love you. Looks make a difference at first impressions, after that we just want to be with you whatever you look like. We do get put off by the continual self-loathing and 'I look ugly' though.
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If a woman tells you she's gay, the right answer is not, "You don't look gay". Just saying.
No B.O is NOT manly, it just shows you can't be arsed to wash. This is NOT attractive.
In answer to your 'I know a gay bloke/women he/she is called David/Janet. Do you know them ?'
Surprisingly, i don't know everyone in the UK, let alone the world, who is gay by their first name.
and 'No, you can't watch/join in either.'
... but by being shown their wiener you could probably make a good guess, I'm betting!
Seriously though, there's nothing better than when a girl has something she really wants to do and share with you. Even better if it involves a bedroom. What? I had to reduce it to that level eventually.
So leave mine the fuck alone.
This.
Oh, yeah, that annoys me. :mad:
A lot of the time they're already mad at you, but it might be for something trivial like a dream they had, so they need to ask you something so you can say something so they can misconstrue it and get legitimately angry at you. Fun times
Something women might know, but don't seem to appreciate: men can enjoy silence very much. I've had whole afternoons spent with male friends where we just sit down, enjoy each other's company and watch TV, in near silence. I've found women feel the need to fill silences with words, even if it's a load of gibberish nobody is interested in and it can spoil enjoyment of the moment for us guys. In my experience girls get mad at me for not engaging them in a long and deep conversation about nothing every hour of the day. They don't realise I enjoy the quiet times, too
This!
I had a friend I sat on a rock on the shore of a sea in finland, she eating an apple, me watching the sunset for 10 minutes without one word exchanged, before I mustered, "Do you know what I like about you? With you it is great remaining silent."
Others tend to go, "you are so calm today. Something wrong?" Because of this I feel awkwardness in silence even tho I enjoy it.
Another thing that pisses me off, that they apparently do not know when I make an genuine compliment. They either think I am trying to woo them out of their pants or say it to make them feel better without meaning it or something like that. I mean what I say, so understand that, and therefore know what kind of answer you can expect when you ask me, if you look fat in that dress, when you in fact look fat in that dress.
It is not 'If you like'
Ladies: if we've pissed you off, more often than not we have not done it on purpose therefore there's a very good chance we have no idea what it is we've done. So when we ask what's wrong, that is not a case of "if you really loved me then you'd know" or "if you really were interested in me then you'd know", usually we simply don't know - us men tend to be simple creatures.
If you want to sort out whatever it is, and believe me the vast majority of the time we genuinely care and want to help, leave the cold-shoulder treatment and just tell us.
Also as someone else mentioned, if we love you and are happy to spend the rest of our lives with you, we don't care if you've put weight on or what you're wearing. OK, maybe it's not that we don't care what you wear, but if you look good and we tell you, f'ing believe it! We love you, we think you're hot, you're the one we want to be with.
Then if you actually like me, then tell me, dont be vague about it!
cool. *puts on scabby tracksuit and scrapes hair back into a ponytail*
Just to be clear, if you're not reaching basic standards of presentation or hygiene then yea, we'll notice you're letting yourself go a bit. But tbh when I'm curled up with the girl I love I don't care if she's just got out of bed and wearing some horribly outdated nightie that doesn't fit well, or is made up to look immaculate. I don't care if she puts on 20 pounds, or if her hair is all frizzy today.
A lot of girls I know and have dated obsess over looking immaculate at every single moment and I can't help but feel some women don't realise that they don't have to look perfect all the time for men. Maybe I'm wrong, but at least with young women (16-25) it has always come across as the impression I got, they are always anxious about looking great to make sure I don't hate them.
As long as its not taken to extremes
Amen brother. If she's the one I love then I don't care if she hasn't done her hair, make up, changed out of her paint stained podgies or has a "mummy tummy" etc if she's the woman I love then she looks hot to me, end of.
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THIS!!!! So many times I have guys pretend to be interested in me to get a shag. If that's all you want then that's cool - as long as you tell me first so I know that's all it is and I don't waste my time seeing if there's more to it. It's not asking much to want to be on the same page.
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Depends how far you take it. Bed-head's hot, no make up can be sexy, a "mummy tummy" is nice because it was caused by my baby.
But never wearing makeup, never wearing nice clothes, never making an effort? Sorry but no, that's really not on and I'm not going to continue to love someone who does that. You see so many women who have kids and then never ever bother wearing makeup or nice clothes and I just think that sometimes they ought to make a bit more of an effort. For themselves rather than for anyone else.