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Convincing my parents to let me study!
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I'm doing my A levels at school this year, and they're very important to me as I want to do medicine at uni. I didn't get amazing results in my GCSEs so I really need to do the best I possibly can in my A levels in order to boost my application.
Also, because medicine is so competitive I really have to do other activities after school and outside school. So, this leaves very limited amount of time in the day to actually study. My science courses are killer and I really should be studying every night. However, it's only 2 weeks into school and I'm already falling behind in my class.
Basically, my parents put studying at the bottom of daily priorities, whether I do or not. They care more about me doing chores.
For example, earlier this year I had my technology GCSE exam in the afternoon, so I was going to get up early to go over the notes one last time, and then go into school. Instead, my mother made me clean. All day.
I was very nearly late for my exam, due to my mother not letting me leave until the hoovering was done, and went into the exam without looking at my notes that day at all. of course, that was one of the ones that I didn't do so well in.
This happens nearly every day, and I'm losing track of homework and study time because of it. I've cut down on the after-school activities I do, and now only do one thing on a friday. But still household chores seem to be more important. I'm really at the end of my tether with it and despite trying to talk to them numerous times, they just don't care. The worst thing is that they are disappointed when I do badly, even though it's their fault! My school is useless and wont believe me about my situation at home. Does anyone know how I can get my parents to listen to me?
Also, because medicine is so competitive I really have to do other activities after school and outside school. So, this leaves very limited amount of time in the day to actually study. My science courses are killer and I really should be studying every night. However, it's only 2 weeks into school and I'm already falling behind in my class.
Basically, my parents put studying at the bottom of daily priorities, whether I do or not. They care more about me doing chores.
For example, earlier this year I had my technology GCSE exam in the afternoon, so I was going to get up early to go over the notes one last time, and then go into school. Instead, my mother made me clean. All day.
I was very nearly late for my exam, due to my mother not letting me leave until the hoovering was done, and went into the exam without looking at my notes that day at all. of course, that was one of the ones that I didn't do so well in.
This happens nearly every day, and I'm losing track of homework and study time because of it. I've cut down on the after-school activities I do, and now only do one thing on a friday. But still household chores seem to be more important. I'm really at the end of my tether with it and despite trying to talk to them numerous times, they just don't care. The worst thing is that they are disappointed when I do badly, even though it's their fault! My school is useless and wont believe me about my situation at home. Does anyone know how I can get my parents to listen to me?
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If these problems most often occur in the evening, why go to the local library instead of going home? There you'll have at least a few hours to study in a quiet environment with resources that might help you.
You can't let stupid people stand in the way of your aspirations, even if they are your parents.
Perhaps write out a list of the things you do, and the time it takes yout o do them and pin the list to the fridge so that your parents can see how much you do.
Also maybe a timetable for your study, and plan your time more effectively.
People manage to study and work and do housework on their own, so as a family, you should be able to manage doing some chores and studying too. Maybe sit down with her to try and work out a solution, but without it looking like youre trying to get out of helping round the house
My stepdad and sister literally do nothing, which is the most infuriating bit. My mum does the cooking but that's about it. Which also pisses me off -_-
Just to reference it, here's what I'd be expected to do on an average day if I'm not at school, although I pretty much have to do most of it if I am:
Hoovering, wash the floors, do the dishes, clean/feed hamsters, feed cats, tidy bedroom, clean the bathroom, clean the kitchen, dusting, tidy living room.
Unfortunately I can't lock my door, they took the bolt-thing out of the handle so it doesn't even close shut properly.
I think I'll take your advice on the time list, to put things into proportion, as that might help.
I've started going to the local library after school any day that I can, so I get an hour or so of peace now as well.
Guess it'll just take time to get them to come round!