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A question on one night stands
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I've never had one but have been tempted are drunken one night stands any good?
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Im not saying you should or shouldnt have a 1 night stand to lose your v plates, just be very careful of getting involved in a situation you have never been in before, especially if you and/or the other person have been drinking.
2. Why are there multiple threads on this now?
Gloom! That's called "the gloom" in my friend group.
The sex itself, depends on how much you've drunk, and how confident you both are.
And loosing your V on a one night stand, i'd highly advise not doing this. Being a virgin, is much better than living in regret and you can't change it...
why do u say be careful at least i guess it would be out the way
I suppose he's talking about things like setting boundaries, going home with a stranger / inviting a stranger over, that kind of stuff.
In a relationship or at the start of one you have a fair idea that you trust the person you're getting involved with to stop if you ask them to, not to steal your stuff, all that practical gubbins.
Why do you have to be tempted to have your first time at having a drunken one night stand, as being your first time having sex?
i guess i just want it out the way
Do it if you feel you must. But a couple of things to bear in mind:
1. In my experience, sex on a one night stand is always a bit crap. This is because I think sex gets better after a few shags with the same person, where you work out what each other like and dislike, and get comfortable enough to relax and ask for stuff you want to do. One night stands, in my experience anyway, are often a bit awkward and almost polite, and so while the thrill of it is quite good, I often find the sex itself a bit underwhelming.
2. A lot of people would be freaked out if they pulled some girl in a club, especially a girl in her late 20s who they would have assumed was reasonably sexually experienced, then took her home and found out that this is her first time. Maybe not all, but a lot would.
If you're determined to get it out of the way, rather than wait for it to arise naturally, I would be more inclined to look on the internet for a nice, similarly situated man.
Completely theoretically: it might also be possible to have quite a tragic experience. One that, I'm guessing, would involve a seventeen-year-old with a rather fragile ego being asked "was that your first time?" after giving about a minute of his most frantic thrusting. You might then tell possibly the least believable lie you've ever told: "no, I've done this three times before". A mix of incredulity and barely veiled pity might follow. I'd imagine that would take a while to be able to laugh about.
That sounds mortifying! What a relief that didn't actually happen, hey?!
Can you imagine if it actually did?! I wouldn't want to meet the man that boy grew up to be.
tbh thats what im worried about in the real world that i would be laughed at! Thing is at least if the guy is drunk and im a little tipsy i could blame the drink and i dont pass my age at all alot of people think im 18! Its not like i would blurt it otu either
In the real world you dont have "IM A VIRGIN" sign following you around above your head.
All that means is that the sex would be shit. You really don't want to have shit sex for your first time, if you have a choice. And as you're a bit older, meaning the men you meet are more experienced, you do have a choice.
Being completely honest, I think you don't need to be worried about being laughed at. Some men might not want to have sex with you if you're a virgin because they wouldn't want the responsibility. Some men might want to have sex with you even more because, let's face it, taking someone's virginity is a massive turn-on for a lot of men.
Other than that, my advice is the same as it has been in the other threads. You don't have to wait for the magical man of your dreams, but I think you willl regret it if you get twatted and jump into bed with the first man who pays you a compliment.
I fully agree, but then again, sex is like oxygen, only if you are deprived of it you are really gagging for it. And I vividly remember the itch I had moments before having sex with my first gf for the first time. Afterwards it was alright and I didn't feel much different (it's not like a level up in a computer game where you can spend new attribute points or learn new talents), but even tho you cannot appreciate once you have it, you are dying to get it, when you are depraved of it.
But maybe like a "kick me" sign taped to the back?
But,as a virgin,maybe you`d be better off waiting.
I personally didnt really care how I lost my V Plates and it didnt matter to me,but not everyone is like that and it can mess some people up.