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Ok I've only given like 3 blow jobs (all to the same guy) but the 3rd time he actually came and he got mad that I didn't swallow. Why is it such a turn on to swallow?!?
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It's actually a lot nicer than you would expect, and if he's coming in your mouth it's not going to make any difference if you swallow or spit, because you'll already have tasted it.
That said, if he's getting pissy about it, tell him to do one. You aren't obligated to swallow it if you don't want to.
dont ever bother giving him one again!
This does raise the concern that you're sdexual practices are not as safe as they could be. There are good arguments in favour of using condoms when engaging in oral sex.
The only reason I can see for swallowing is because breakig off to dispose of it spoils the intimacy of the moment, but that's not something to get mad about. You don't want to swallow my cum, pass it to me and I will.
Although youre right that youre going to taste it anyway but I find that sometimes the actual swallowing really turns my stomach. Thats not sexy
oh my god, I am eating... :sour:
Ettiquette doesn't really come into it, men prefer you to swallow but it's a personal choice and men should respect you enough to accept if you aren't comfortable doing so then you shouldn't. It's absolutely your choice to make.
Spliffie, i think you need to remember that this forum is aimed at young people and that it's not really apropriate to answer some things in the way you have.
Since this was the first time you've encountered semen in your mouth, I'm guessing you've never swallowed before. You could potentially give it a try next time (although you still reserve the right to decide that you don't like it). If the idea of swallowing is just something you're not willing to try, though, he needs to get over it and accept that you'll be spitting it into a tissue or something. Maybe he'd prefer you to swallow, but that's just tough luck on his part unless you change your mind. You shouldn't have to do anything you're uncomfortable with, just like you wouldn't force him to do something he didn't want to.
I answered the question - it's considered good manners. You might disagree, but that's only because you've got bad manners.
In any case, I'm reliably informed swallowing is far more effective than spitting when it comes to the best way of getting rid of it so it's win-win.
I'll admit though, my perspective is pretty much restricted to women who enjoy sucking dick just as I enjoy licking poon, so that might skew things a little bit :cool:
If someone's old enough to be giving blowjobs and you're giving them advice, I struggle to see what's inappropriate to introduce the concept of etiquette...
It's like giving a prostitute a tip because she was really good in bed.
personally I think spitting ruins the mood, but okay. if you're really not up for it, then it's your choice not to do it and your boy should at least try to understand it.
Ding ding ding.
Also, even if you don't like the taste... it's already in your mouth. May as well swallow and be done with it rather than have to hold it there and keep tasting it while you find a proper receptacle to spit it into. That's my logic, at least.
i disagree because manners shouldn't come into it in this situation, it should be about what the giver feels the most comfortable doing, some girls won't feel comfortable swallowing so why should they? it's no reflection on a person's manners.
Given that the safest way to advise giving head is with a condom would it still be bad manners not to swallow? I find you telling anyone who reads this (including underage girls) that it is bad manners to spit and the best thing to do is to be polite and swallow pretty offensive to be honest, we should be promoting the right to do only what the individual feels most comfortable with and the right to say no, and reflecting that with all sexual choices, whether it is spit, swallow, up the bum or whatever. You saying that spitting is bad manners could be construed as manners dictate what a woman chooses to do with her body, therefore actually she has no choice but to do what is considered "good manners".
I prefer to swallow personally, but i believe in the right to make a choice on how comfortable you feel in an individual situation, you stating that manners come into such a personal preference and something that is such a big scary thing to some people makes you look a bit ignorant at best, i'm sure you would like your women chained to the sink whilst they are made to swallow your spunk too.
But they do come into it. Most discussions I've have with women reach this conclusion quickly. It's what they tell me, and its what most guys think as well. So when the question is posed as to why guys prefer a woman to swallow, I don't see why it shouldn't be suggested.
Errr...there would be nothing to swallow. nice but dim, eh?
In my opinion it is impolite to spit, an opinion shared by most men and most women (or at least amongst those who enjoy giving fellatio to start with) so why not state it when the question is posed as to why this preference exists?
It could only be construed as such by making several wholly erroneous errors in logic, so obviously erroneous you discredit your own argument. Considering spitting to be rude does not equate to believing women should have no choice but to do what is considered "good manners", that's just silly.
I don't disagree - did I state anywhere that women don't have a right to choose whether to spit or swallow? No, I didn't. Everyone has a right to choose what to do or what not to do (within legality) - likewise, everyone has a right to consider certain actions to be polite or impolite, good or bad, attractive or unattractive, a turn on or a turn off.
Sweatheart, I don't make my women swallow my spunk, nor do I have a desire to chain them to the sink - unless requested. Every woman I've been with has swallowed, I wouldn't waste my time with one who didn't in the same way I wouldn't waste my time with a woman whose sexual repetoire consisted solely of missionary position with the lights off.
Yeah, sure you wouldn't :rolleyes:
Pics?
if you insist
Yeah baby!
I don't know anyone IRL who considers it impolite to spit.
However perhaps this insistence on swallowing might explain why some suckers pretend they enjoy you coming on their face instead of in it?
Except that I don't "insist", all the women I've had blowjobs from simply swallowed of their own accord, including the one sitting here laughing right now.
:d
In what way am I sucker, she asks? Literal sense aside...
Indeed.
My personal opinion is that if you're not willing to swallow it yourself, you shouldn't EXPECT someone else to do it. Up until a few months ago I was massively, massively uncomfortable with the idea of swallowing or even having it anywhere near my face. Last weekend was the first time I've managed to swallow all of it without gagging on it. But Boy has never considered me RUDE for the times when I've not wanted to swallow it, because he knows that it's personal preference and he should count himself bloody lucky that I'm down there giving him mind-blowing blowjobs in the first place.
Out of interest, do you consider yourself "bloody lucky" to have a boy go "down there"? What would you think if he made a fuss about vaginal secretions?
Mine is no matter how glad you are to swallow it, you shouldn't expect someone else to - I'm fairly sure it's not what you meant, but all this "returning the favour" business irritates the hell out of me. As far as I'm concerned if you're going to barter for sex, you may as well just pay for it.
I thought the word play was obvious, but as you're repeatedly PMing me for an answer, it was only intended in the literal sense - as I have no other information about these purported people performing penile pleasure upon your person.