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He is just not good at oral..

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
My boyfriend hardly ever goes down on me which annoys me cos I always give him head!! I mentioned this the other day and he went down on me, but to be honest..it was not good. Come to think of it, he has never really been that good at it. He is too hard if you know what I mean, and can be quite rough if you know what I'm saying girls. Not to get too graphic here but sometimes he nibbles me which I quite like, however he does it so rough that once I actually bled!!

I think deep down he knows that he isn't good at it and is almost embarressed because after 20mins of him going at it and me not having an orgasm, he moans that he can't keep going cos his tongue's aching! and when I gently try and tell him what I do like, he does it for a bit but then we are back to "babe, my tongue's aching." I suppose I subconsciously don't cum because I am worried that he is about to tell me he has to stop any moment. it's really upsetting me because I know that I am missing out on a good thing here. Oral sex can be amazing as I have heard from my friends and I just feel like I am missing out and not sure what to do...

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The only thing you can do is try and instruct him and tell him how you like it. Its probably hurting his pride that he cant get you off so dont have a go at him but gently tell him, harder, softer etc.

    Also why dont you try 69 that whay you're both busy doing something and not so self conscious
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tell him no blow jobs until he gets better at giving you oral.

    believe me, he will learn quick ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Calvin wrote: »
    Tell him no blow jobs until he gets better at giving you oral.

    believe me, he will learn quick ;)

    Or that
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    little_tiny_flower wrote: »
    , he moans that he can't keep going cos his tongue's aching! and when I gently try and tell him what I do like, he does it for a bit but then we are back to "babe, my tongue's aching."

    Don't wait until he's tired before telling him what to do.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I hate telling someone what to do in bed, if I have to tell them, I get turned off by telling them...

    Give him a book and tell him to learn how to do it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Might be like the washing up. Do such a bad job that you don't get asked again. :d
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe he needs an incentive, peanut butter or nutella maybe :naughty:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tell him to up his game or youre off
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Calvin wrote: »
    Tell him no blow jobs until he gets better at giving you oral.

    believe me, he will learn quick ;)
    No-b-jobs till he gets better at it.Where shall he go to practice???
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    grumpybumpas wrote: »
    No-b-jobs till he gets better at it.Where shall he go to practice???

    on her I imagine
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If he's willing but not able then that shit's on you. If he's able but not willing then that shit's on him.
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