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Am I straight or bisexual?
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I got speaking to a guy from Gumtree on the sex section (which isn't there any more 
) He told me that he has a few lasses in their 30s who we could shag.
We spoke to each other on the phone and by texting. I have met him twice this year, I have met him for sex and I don't know if I'm bisexual or not.
When ever he asks me when I want to shag one of the lasses, I always say that I want to shag them. But when the day comes, I don't meet them.
Over the past few weeks I decided that I don't want to be bisexual, but he keeps telling me 'practice' shagging him before we meet one of the lasses.
If I do meet for sex to shag one of the girls, I am scared and nervous that I won't get an erection because I want sex so much (I'm a virgin).
I'm suppose to be meeting them both this coming monday.
Some years ago I got speaking to a girl of around 4 years younger than me, we met and she gave me a blowjob, but I wasn't horny enough and I didn't get hard. She gave me it in a car park next to the sea in Newcastle lol
I just don't know what to decide. Am I straight or bisexual?
) He told me that he has a few lasses in their 30s who we could shag.We spoke to each other on the phone and by texting. I have met him twice this year, I have met him for sex and I don't know if I'm bisexual or not.
When ever he asks me when I want to shag one of the lasses, I always say that I want to shag them. But when the day comes, I don't meet them.
Over the past few weeks I decided that I don't want to be bisexual, but he keeps telling me 'practice' shagging him before we meet one of the lasses.
If I do meet for sex to shag one of the girls, I am scared and nervous that I won't get an erection because I want sex so much (I'm a virgin).
I'm suppose to be meeting them both this coming monday.
Some years ago I got speaking to a girl of around 4 years younger than me, we met and she gave me a blowjob, but I wasn't horny enough and I didn't get hard. She gave me it in a car park next to the sea in Newcastle lol
I just don't know what to decide. Am I straight or bisexual?
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You need to stop worrying about getting laid and just go with whatever feels right.
You should only end up shagging this guy if you want to, its not going to prepare you for being with a girl- because you'd be shagging a lad.
I am afraid you don't get a choice what you are, straight, gay, half rice, half chips, you have the play the hand you've been dealt.
If you want to sleep with someone of whatever sex, then go for it. But have a bit of pride in who you sleep with cos desperation is not a nice smell.
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yea, what calvin said. Do what feels right, can't decide anyway. Look at it from this side: being bisexual doubles your chances!
Do you believe in the Easter Bunny too? This guy's playing you.
Do you want to have sex with men? Do you ever fantasize about men when you're masturbating?
Just because this bloke wants to shag you doesn't mean you are bisexual!
nicely put Calvin!
I agree.
Don't think I'll meet him again. I'll just ignore his messages and see if he stops sending them.
Keep your comments to yourself please.
Every post on here is somebodies comment.
I think he does have a point, you always seem to be on some lone quest to get laid
If I ever found out that someone I was seeing had used the sex section of gumtree, I would run away screaming. Seriously, desperation is obvious whether you think you're good at hiding it or not. Why not just let it happen rather than this endless quest to get laid? Seriously, sex can be amazing but it's perfectly possible to live without it.
dont ask questions in public then :thumb:
You don't choose to be bisexual. It's just the way some people roll..
lol :thumb:
If you chose to go ahead with the meeting anyway, please be careful, don't let anyone talk you into doing anything you don't want to do.
Your first time should be special, thrilling, and create a good memory for you to look back on. Wouldn't it be an aweful fate to spend the rest of your days looking back and remembering being uncomfortable?
With regards to your sexuality, define it however you like, I don't believe one has to fit into a neatly drawn box by society.
My step-brother met his wife on gumtree!
Don't think it was on the sex section though.
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I mean't I will let it happen when I meet a girl..... whenever that may be.
Yep I know your thoughts about it Niamh. I'm out with the lads from work on Saturday 3rd July in town..... plenty of lasses about lol. I'll **try** and make an effort. This time I won't be driving cus I want to get pissed.
Good. Go have fun
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thats quite a way in the future to plan a night out.
errmm... I've planned my Sunday the 4th. It involves the new twilight film, and a party (although... the person having the party hasn't actually been told yet
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strange
maybe planning the friday night by about tuesday is as far as i'd go with planning nights out and about. and do u mean the person having the party doesn't know their having a party yet? or that don't know that ur going? :chin:
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Beyond that, I don't think it's terribly important...who cares whether you're straight, bi or gay? You fancy who you fancy...give it time, play around, and keep an open mind.