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Sex toys for beginners.

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
want to buy my first sex toy. Where and how do I start?
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    Dr PirateDr Pirate Posts: 8,303 Legendary Poster
    In a shop, quite possibly not tesco.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I guess something like an Ann Summers party would be good - because you can see what there is, the rep know something about them.

    Given your self confidence you'll probably find it too intimidating.

    Buy online from lovehoney
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Big Gay wrote: »
    Buy online from lovehoney

    Hopefully they'll deliver in a plain wrapper :lol:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    overthehill wrote: »
    Hopefully they'll deliver in a plain wrapper :lol:

    They do and they don't put the batteries in so your toys won't start going off in the box :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Marina Aniseed wrote: »
    your toys won't start going off in the box :)

    I thought that was the whole idea of a vibrator !
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I will probably buy online.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    RubberSkin wrote: »
    I thought that was the whole idea of a vibrator !

    :lol:

    lovehoney is the best site really
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :yes: LoveHoney.

    They come in plain packaging with the return address as "LH trading".
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    RubberSkin wrote: »
    I thought that was the whole idea of a vibrator !

    :naughty:

    Thats so funny, it reminded me of when a facebook friend wanted me to send her a private message but she made a typo and asked me to
    "Massage my inbox"
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As soon as I typed that I thought it looked a bit iffy lol. Nevermind, plus some vibrators aren't for that purpose :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Try taking off your bra and playing with the toys you already have first.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    katralla wrote: »
    Try taking off your bra and playing with the toys you already have first.

    Wasn't your break meant to end at 7? :hyper:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I recommend anything by lelo and the fun factory are also pretty good, i think lovehoney stock them both
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Randomgirl wrote: »
    Wasn't your break meant to end at 7? :hyper:

    I over ran my study time in compensation :yes:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You feel bad about masturbating but want to buy a vibrator?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wooooooooah wrote: »
    You feel bad about masturbating but want to buy a vibrator?

    An interesting point. That said, I used to be VERY peculiar about masturbating (it's a long story and quite nasty) but I found that using a little bullet vibrator finally got me to relax and be comfortable and I've started being able to orgasm by myself and with a partner. Certainly the best tenner I've ever spent.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Marina Aniseed wrote: »
    An interesting point. That said, I used to be VERY peculiar about masturbating (it's a long story and quite nasty) but I found that using a little bullet vibrator finally got me to relax and be comfortable and I've started being able to orgasm by myself and with a partner. Certainly the best tenner I've ever spent.
    :yes:. I love my little bullet :heart:.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Boots do a good range of what they call intimate massagers some of them can be used on both partners they look like they would be fun to use as a couple or on your own
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    katralla wrote: »
    Try taking off your bra and playing with the toys you already have first.

    Do you mean your boobs lol?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wooooooooah wrote: »
    You feel bad about masturbating but want to buy a vibrator?

    I wouldn't tell anyone.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Marina Aniseed wrote: »
    An interesting point. That said, I used to be VERY peculiar about masturbating (it's a long story and quite nasty) but I found that using a little bullet vibrator finally got me to relax and be comfortable and I've started being able to orgasm by myself and with a partner. Certainly the best tenner I've ever spent.

    I've never orgasmed with my partner. Mostly because I can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation and he can't do it in a way that brings me to orgasm - only I can :(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lyric wrote: »


    I've never orgasmed with my partner. Mostly because I can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation and he can't do it in a way that brings me to orgasm - only I can :(

    Cant you guide him Lyric i mean use your hand to phsically guide his fingers i know i would if i was'nt reaching orgasm and he will probably enjoy it as well
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lyric wrote: »


    I've never orgasmed with my partner. Mostly because I can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation and he can't do it in a way that brings me to orgasm - only I can :(

    Funny you should say that, I'm the same but I've found that getting him to go down on me in the middle of intercourse usually does the trick. I'm no expert in these things but my guess is that if I'm aroused because of the sex then it's easier to get to my clit as it's enlarged therefore easier to pleasure and easier to bring to orgasm.

    I don't know but it works for me. Perhaps you could try it sometime?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Louisek wrote: »
    Cant you guide him Lyric i mean use your hand to phsically guide his fingers i know i would if i was'nt reaching orgasm and he will probably enjoy it as well

    Yeah, I have done but he doesn't 'rub' at the right speed.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Marina Aniseed wrote: »
    Funny you should say that, I'm the same but I've found that getting him to go down on me in the middle of intercourse usually does the trick. I'm no expert in these things but my guess is that if I'm aroused because of the sex then it's easier to get to my clit as it's enlarged therefore easier to pleasure and easier to bring to orgasm.

    I don't know but it works for me. Perhaps you could try it sometime?

    Thank you, I will :)
    It sounds weird but I always feel like just throwing him off the bed and masturbating myself because it's a definate and easy orgasm :')
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lyric wrote: »

    Yeah, I have done but he doesn't 'rub' at the right speed.
    Tell him to go slower or faster. A big part of good sex is communication.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't find it sexy to have to tell or show someone what to do. I know it has to be done sometimes but... I'm through with being a sex instructor and sticking to partners who get it right first time from now on.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Can you not show him how you like it?....I did with my ex, got what I wanted and he really enjoyed it too ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    katralla wrote: »
    I don't find it sexy to have to tell or show someone what to do. I know it has to be done sometimes but... I'm through with being a sex instructor and sticking to partners who get it right first time from now on.

    But how can he just get it right first time?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    piecesofme wrote: »
    Can you not show him how you like it?....I did with my ex, got what I wanted and he really enjoyed it too ;)

    I'd feel ashamed masturbating in front of him..
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