Help... do I wait or walk away??

Former Member

Hi, my name is Sally I need some advice about this guy I have being seeing. We've been together for some time now, but it's a big secret.

This was good to start with since I had just come out of a relationship, and he was still in his relationship( I know I'm a bad person). In the begining, we were only meeting up for sex but then we started spending more time together and it turned into more than just that. Since November we have been together, without seeing other people. I really do want to be with him but my friends think that he will always be a player. He says he is not ready to tell everyone, my ex is his friend and all our friends know each other. Should I go with my feelings and wait til he is ready to come out to everyone? Or I am wasting my time, like my friends think?!? Any advise is welcome, thanks

Former Member

If all your friends know each other, presumably most of them have already worked out that you are seeing each other. Does it really matter if he doesn't want to make a public declaration that you are "together"? If you are both happy with each other, I should just go with the flow.

Former Member

If he loved you enough, he would 'live' for you, regardless of what anyone (including his ex may think). I would personally tread with caution. I'm sure that he cares for you. But enough to rock the boat? I don't think so.

Former Member

I can't see it working. I wouldn't be with someone who wouldn't declare that they were with me, however akward it was.