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You're probably right. I know in my heart it's not a good idea, and I have told him that, but I suppose I feel guilty that he isn't getting any sex and so feel the need to help him out in a weird way !!
I think you've got to weigh up the pros and cons of the sex vs the feelings you'll both have afterwards with regards to one another
:yes: I don't think it can ever be as simple as 'helping him out" and if it is, what kind of gain is that? Part of getting your self-esteem back after the end of a relationship is giving yourself more credit.
Best thing I've heard on this topic (it's easy for any of us just to say 'no don't do it - you'll get messed up') is:
Do you really want five years of a relationship that at some point meant a great deal to you, to be boiled down at the final hour to casual sex? If you get into a bootie call situation then there's a danger that this might happen.
Anyway, no matter what, try to put your own needs first on this one.
I think you're right Helen, looking at it from that point of view, I don't. Thanks for all the replies
it depends cuz i had a long term relationship for 4 month and i like her alot but she broke up with me cuz she wanted a bf that could hold her and stuff wich i understand but it killed me all i did was listhening to her favorite song and cry people made jokes about it so i fighted them i love her so much she was my first gf its been 6 month and i still cant get over her i knew her hole life she use to live close to me for 10 years. when she broke up the same day she found someyone else and yet still im hurt so idk so trust me your not the only 1
Dead, but a great read though... Didn't realise it was from 2010. But quite a few useful things in there.
I found it a good read too and it made me realise how much things changed! I can't even remembering posting in here but the person I was posting about I never ever think about anymore, and im with a lovely guy who iv just bought a house with, just shows how time moves on