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Dear, fatty
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I suppose it's time to admit I may have a small problem... But just a little one.
Now me and food have never really had a good relationship. I've always either refused to eat or eaten loads.
But recently I have been talking to friends and they are adimant that I'm not fat. I can't help thinking that's what they think they should be saying.
It's not that I'm saying I'm fat to get the "ohh you're not" reaction. I really genuenly think I am.
I find myself slowly eating less, I now no longer take money to school so I can't buy lunch. At tea I find my self strugling to eat the food and really want to go sick it up. And if someone asks me if I have eaten I say yeah even though I haven't.
I'm quite hungry at the minute but if I go into the kitchen and look for food I can't bring myself to eat it.
I have a bit of a problem don't I? ... Shit
I have no idea what to do!
Now me and food have never really had a good relationship. I've always either refused to eat or eaten loads.
But recently I have been talking to friends and they are adimant that I'm not fat. I can't help thinking that's what they think they should be saying.
It's not that I'm saying I'm fat to get the "ohh you're not" reaction. I really genuenly think I am.
I find myself slowly eating less, I now no longer take money to school so I can't buy lunch. At tea I find my self strugling to eat the food and really want to go sick it up. And if someone asks me if I have eaten I say yeah even though I haven't.
I'm quite hungry at the minute but if I go into the kitchen and look for food I can't bring myself to eat it.
I have a bit of a problem don't I? ... Shit
I have no idea what to do!
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Admitting you have a problem is the first and biggest step. It's great that you have been able to come here and be so honest with yourself.
As you have said - you and food have never had a healthy relationship and it seems like you have recently been misleading people when they ask if you have eaten and also eating less. It's really positive that you have recognised these changes and have seen them as a problem. It is not a case of if you are overweight or not, it is about how you see yourself, and as you have said, you see yourself as fat. Your friends and family's words cannot change this perception you have, it has to come from you.
You may want to check out some of the information we have on eating disorders on Thesite - some of this may help you? There is a link to the 'Beat' website - which has a really useful helpline.
You could also try talking to your Doctor about how you feel towards food at the moment, how would you feel about doing this?
Please keep posting, take care -
Hi there! I don't know what weight or height you are? If your friends tell you, you're not fat, then you're NOT! I know how you feel about the " eating nothing or eating loads". I can be a bit like that too, but I've learned that starving isn't the answer. I know you are young, but not eating well can take it's toll on the body. The one thing that it can affect is fertility. Lets just say I've been pregnant twice & still have no baby! Before we try again, I have to improve my eating.
If you are within your weight range, then you are lucky, because it means you are healthy. Please look after that:)
Hmm...I don't know. It's like i don't think i need to go to my Gp because i look like i don't have a problem with food. Even though today i have no breakfast or lunch, and had hardly any tea and i feel proud of that. And i know that sounds stupid but i dunno it's complicated.
I was kind of talking about a friend about it today, as she knows some one else who has a problem with food. But as soon as she said the words eating diorder i was like nooo! mine isn't that far! but in my head i know i have probably got one / developing one. But at the same time i can't really admit it, or change it because then i'm admitting it. If that makes sence?
This isn't good. You won't be able to function properly for very long without eating! I really think you need to visit your GP & have a chat about your issues & try to get to the root of why you feel like this. Do look after yourself.
mmm may be a good idea
I know you guys say i'm not, but today someone said that i was and they will have to roll me everywhere because i'm so fat. Now i know it was a joke and i was suposed to take it as a joke but i couldn't and it made me feel so rubbish!
I just had tea and i really feel like going and bringing it back up.
I don't think this is something i can just change and be fine the next day.
water makes your hips bigger!
You dont need to worry about me lol
Naun - maybe instead of having big meals far apart from each other, work on having several small meals throughout the day. Then you won't feel like you're eating LOADS and if you miss one it won't be so bad. Start by working at it in steps. Small meals at first, then getting bigger until you feel able to eat normally again.
Also, from your pictures I assure you that you are NOT FAT. You're GORGEOUS.
There are degrees of problems. Like there are degrees of illness. Some people break their leg, but it doesn't mean they don't need or deserve help just because some people don't have legs at all.
You need to think about getting help NOW, even if you think you don't need it, so you don't ever get to the stage where you can't be helped. Eating disorders ruin lives and they kill people, and if you have any chance of avoiding that, you should take it and run.
I know getting better's not easy, and it definitely won't happen overnight, but it WILL happen. You just have to want it to.
im stuck ina world were i cant get rid of food im constantly thinkn about food and being sick after every meal and i only eat soup
and i hate it im too embarrased to go the doctors but you seem to be a strong good person
take care
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I'll try the eating small meals, but i'm slightly worried i wont be able to. But if one more person asks why i'm not eating at luch i may force feed myself lol...
I'm a bit worried that i will start to sick up food, i mean the urge to do it was a bit scary but i managed not too.
I have also got into the habbit of weighing myself and writing if i have had meals and how long i have went without food. It seems to feel like I'm more in control if i do.
Maybe you feel like in other areas of your life you lack control, but food is one thing you can control.
I would still recommend talking to someone?
also, when I don't feel up to eating much, i find saltine crackers good
if i feel rubbish i will not eat and if i can exercise so then i feel completely drained, and by this point i don't want to eat anyway. And it goes around like that.
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Don't patronise me about it.
HMM, I don't think you have a serious problem with food if you are being flippant about things.
Fine you don't think I have a probelm. Maybe I should just get worse and then maybe I can get help seen as I'm too flippant. Even though you do not to ow me at all and have no idea what I'm like. I joke a lot it helps. So what?
Comments like this are the reason people don't get help ffs.
NAUN - even if it's just an apple and a cereal bar for lunch, eating SOMETHING will kick start your metabolism and actually eating small meals would stop you gaining weight when you start eating regularly again. Hope you're ok and please ignore the quoted comment
I know I shouldn't let that comment get to me but it really did. But I guess it's me I have to prove myself to, not others.
You do have a problem. Maybe it's not as bad as it could be......YET. Admitting you have a problem with food is the first step and taking a step back could make it a million times worse and nobody here wants to see that happen.
And NavyBlue, a lot of people make jokes about serious issues to avoid confronting the real issue they have! I think NAUN does need help and has made a huge step admitting she needs help and doesn't need you coming in and making her think "Oh well maybe my problem isn't serious enough to warrant seeking treatment."
And NavyBlue, Jesus Christ, that's the most USELESS thing you could say.
It seems to me that you started this thread to get some help with your concerns around your eating patterns and fear of food and somewhere that's got lost. Where are you up to today with that? Any clearer as to what you might need to do next? Have you had a chance to look at the B-eat site recommended?
Take care and let us know how you are.
which involved a friend getting pissed with me cause i didn't want luch. which made me feel worse. I had a free lunch today and everything - as i was on duty. And i still couldn't bloody go get food.
well we're all entitled to our opinions & I feel that a serious issue like having a major problem with food, usually isn't dotted with light-hearted comments. I was 17 once too & sometimes alot of this is attention-seeking, plain & simple. We actually have no idea what weight she is, so we don't know if she is underweight or not. A major problem IS nothing to joke about. I've had a thread on here about my 2 miscarriages & never once have I made light of it, but that's just me! :chin:
With all due respect, I've had 20 more years experience on this earth that you have & I know what I'm talking about;)