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Spot on.
Just for the reckord, it was 6 months we where together, not years.
So this other guy was fairley recent.
I know my issues have made things worse for us both but she lied to me long before I had any issues. When she found out my views it made it worse.
I still gave her plenty of chances to come clean but it took her until we moved in together to tell me.
I am realy so hurt right now. I havent eaten or sleept for days now.
If you want to make this work then you're going to have to let this go and actually move forward. It won't work if you start your "new" relationship from a position of you feeling superior because you belive that she has wronged you and has some penance to pay.
You may think that you gave her plenty of chances, but if there was some issue that she had kept from you, then all those "chances" would have done is pile unrequired guilt onto her and make the issue seem bigger than it is.
Move on.
God forbid if she forgets to put the rubbish bins out.. that is so much worse. for some one of a "mature" age I really think you need to grow up.. A LOT.
When you love a person, you accept every bit of them, not just the parts that fit your ideal.
Don't even get me started on calling someone you supposedly love a slag because at thirty years old she dared to have a sex life before you. For the record, 7 people by 30 is hardly sleeping around!
You chose to save yourself, and that's fine, but she chose not to, and that's fine too. Other than maybe the lies, she has NOTHING to apologise for.
have to agree with yu! things happen o well, is it REALLY REALLY worth ending a relationship over that? i mean its the past.
and it's obvious that yu love her to death so why not TALK but REAALLY talk to her and see how things go.
but just remember that she has her own right to her privacy and that its really non of your buisness( idont mean to be brash)
and whats with this you hurting yourself craziness! come on! you're a 28 yr old dude. a grown ass men. serously?
but like i said. talk to her. bc eventually she will stop looking for you and it might end up hurting you more...you might just think that she doesnt care anymore!
good luck
yep!!!!!!!!!!:thumb:
have to agree
Strap on a pair, for crying out loud.
People tell lies. It isn't that much of a deal. You're making something out of nothing.
If my girl asked me how many i'd slept with, i'd say the number was lower than it was. She told you the truth, so obviously she trusts you. And you over-reacted, majorly. I think it's probably a sulk for an hour response, then be all happy again, not pack the bags, move out and tell her it's over.
So she slept with 7 guys instead of 5 or whatever,its not like shes telling you what she did,where she did it and who she did it with like my ex did.Now THAT fucks you up.
Like someone said,strap on a pair,get off your high horse and and stop judging her.
I personally dont think anyone who wants to get into a relationship with someone should ever discuss their past sexual history.Yes,you`ve been with other people but I dont want or ever need to know.