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he doesnt seem happy
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Hi im a bit worried about my friend to be honest. He has rushed into his new relationship - got engaged quick moved in after quick too. Hes been living with her now for three months but whenever i talk to him its oh im ok and thats all you get out of him. I spoke to him last week and he was short with me im ok had a hell week will email u tomorrow which he never did and day after i tried talking to him on chat he went offline.
I left it a few days and spoke to him yesterday i asked him you alright after last week im and i asked him how he was oh im ok. I asked how his snooker n pool was going to make conversation not very well he said and he was going on oh its a constant battle. I dont know if he was just saying that in general or what but hes normally very good at his snooker and to me doesnt sound very happy at all
I left it a few days and spoke to him yesterday i asked him you alright after last week im and i asked him how he was oh im ok. I asked how his snooker n pool was going to make conversation not very well he said and he was going on oh its a constant battle. I dont know if he was just saying that in general or what but hes normally very good at his snooker and to me doesnt sound very happy at all
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I think you should sit him down and have a proper chat with him. Don't get him drunk or whatever- that really wont help. Just sit him down and tell him you are concerned, and if he doesn't listen then it is his choice. You can't force him to. Just let him know you are there if and when he needs you... I think he does seem abit rushed into this relationship, but he probaly is happy. Maybe just still abit shocked by the fact he is engaged? Is he an optomistic person? Because if he isn't then he's probaly just abit sceptical and thinking that something will go wrong sooner or later.
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also another username doesnt mean we dont know this problem already.
Get. Over. It. :banghead:
Maybe he is not playing th pool/snooker that much anymore and is spending more time on his relationship, so yeah he'll be a bit rusty.
If he is starting to talk to you first then maybe he doesn't want to talk about what is going on in his day life and maybe all the questions about how everything is going gets a bit annoying? It would annoy me after a while. Perhaps you should try talking about something else other than his life.
'A hell week' could mean anything. He could of had a few crap games of snooker, or work had been hard. But either way he doesn't seem like he wants to tell you - which is fine as everyone is entitled to the privicy.
It seems to me that you are looking for flaws in his relationship, and TBH even IF there were some, I don't think you would get to find out from him.
all he seems to talk about is work really i dont think he has much else to say i dont constantly ask him questions i just ask hows he doing.... he had been having issues wiht his last gf for a whole year and tbh i didnt even know about it as hes a very closed in person
Well there's your answer.
Agreed.
I'm ok is all your going to get out of him then - it's how he is. So there's no problem and you shouldn't be worries about him.
d maybe in time he will open up about it, but for now you gotta let him sort it out.
On a not very serious note i'm still just wondering if you're some random troll just taking the mickey. We'll see eh
You may think you know him pretty well, however ask yourself this; if you really knew him that well wouldn't you already know the answers to the very questions you keep asking?
Or better still wouldn't you be able to ask him directly or talk to him yourself?
I sense you are clutching at straws, looking for things that aren't there and simply striving for some glimmer of hope that he wants to end his current relationship.
If he told you he was happy would you be content with the answer? Somehow I doubt it.
:yes: To me, this is the best answer to all of this. Spot on.
Men :rolleyes:
I'm sure if he is having problems then it's being sorted between the two of them.
I think you are reading way too much into the situation, and you're finding problems that aren't there.
I also second this, as I think it would be more beneficial if you concentrated on yourself and sought the help that you clearly need. You mentioned previously that you'd received some counselling and it didn't help. However I'd suggest that a different counsellor or better still a more qualified therapist would still be worthwhile. As any counsellor or therapist worth their salt would have addressed many of the issues that you have with yourself.
well actually i would when i did try and ask how he was enjoying his new house i asked him so tell me bout your house liking the space yeah house is great lots of space its just weird and the whole its a constant bttle whats that all about
But if you know this then why would you need to ask if he's happy? Wouldn't you already have the answer? Why ask the question?
What exactly is it that you're hoping he will say?
Are you just ignoring totally the advice people are giving you? And mindlessly continuing on about the situation that we allready know about in great detail.
It seems that the OP is a user who had to ask for their account to be removed so although you may have heard about this issue before it's now in fact the only thread where it's being discussed and there's a lot of sound advice here.
If you're finding yourself frustrated by this repeated topic or responses then it's best just not to post in the thread or speak to a moderator directly.
Thanks