Do I tell him?

Former Member

Hi yes it's me again, with a new dilemma and one I could do without!

So you know I split with my boyfriend for various reasons, primarily though because It turned out he's married.

So I'm thinking, just get up and move on. However I had an appointment this morning at the clinic to check on a coil (type of contraception) I had fitted a while ago. Turns out I have to go for a scan as the coil may have been dislodged and there's a chance I could be pregnant.

Do I tell my ex now to prepare him, wait until I know for sure or just never tell him?

Opinions please.....

Former Member

wait till you know for sure

Former Member

Firstly it may not have been dislodged.
Secondly, if it has been, you probly are not going to be pregnant.
Thirdly, I dont mean to be rude, but while you didnt know the guy was married and sleeping with someone else, if you were having sex without condoms, might it be worth getting yourself checked out, no intent to make you panic, but if he has been doing it with you, who else has he been playing around with without protection.

Former Member

I would wait. No point in saying things that might be, when they might not.

Former Member

MrG wrote: »

Firstly it may not have been dislodged.
Secondly, if it has been, you probly are not going to be pregnant.
Thirdly, I dont mean to be rude, but while you didnt know the guy was married and sleeping with someone else, if you were having sex without condoms, might it be worth getting yourself checked out, no intent to make you panic, but if he has been doing it with you, who else has he been playing around with without protection.

Already on it...

Former Member

As a bloke I'd much prefer to be told that a woman was carrying my child rather than she might be. If you told him now it could cause his marriage problems (yeah I know he was already playing around but this sort of news could destroy it completely). Best leave sleeping dogs lie until you know for sure.

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Glenn Quagmire wrote: »

As a bloke I'd much prefer to be told that a woman was carrying my child rather than she might be. If you told him now it could cause his marriage problems (yeah I know he was already playing around but this sort of news could destroy it completely). Best leave sleeping dogs lie until you know for sure.

Fair enough, even though he hasn't been very fair to me. I do not want to be the reason his marriage messes up.

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KymC wrote: »

Fair enough, even though he hasn't been very fair to me. I do not want to be the reason his marriage messes up.

You seem very honourable despite his deceit which obviously was not your fault. Must have been a right kick in the teeth when you found out.

Anyway, even though I know very little about a woman's plumbing system, I've pretty sure you're not pregnant from what you say. Easy for some random 30-something bloke on the web to say of course but try not to worry. If it helps, not all of us are tossers

Former Member

Glenn Quagmire wrote: »

You seem very honourable despite his deceit which obviously was not your fault. Must have been a right kick in the teeth when you found out.

Anyway, even though I know very little about a woman's plumbing system, I've pretty sure you're not pregnant from what you say. Easy for some random 30-something bloke on the web to say of course but try not to worry. If it helps, not all of us are tossers

Ah, thank you for your kind words. I'm not going to worry right now, no point until I know for sure, I have learnt that worrying tends not to achieve much besides stress.

And I'm certain that not all men are, as you so eloquently put it, tossers! Lol! :-P I know that there are some good ones out there, somewhere, in the far off distance...hmmmmmm.....searching..... ;-)

Former Member

I reakon you should wait, because what if he still has feelings for you and then you go along and tell him that you might be preggerz he might be like yay or something?

Former Member

I would wait also x

Former Member

however, an after thought, why not do a pregnancy test? that will tell you if ur pregnant and then u can also have the scan after.

Former Member

Wait, if it turns out your not pregnant he might think you made the whole thing up to try and destroy his marriage. He might think you are trying to get him back! No point worrying him and talking about it might be difficult as it might stir up fresh feelings. Take a test, that way you will know asap.

littlemissy

Wait. No point opening a huge can of worms if it isn't necessary.