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Do I tell him?
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Hi yes it's me again, with a new dilemma and one I could do without!
So you know I split with my boyfriend for various reasons, primarily though because It turned out he's married.
So I'm thinking, just get up and move on. However I had an appointment this morning at the clinic to check on a coil (type of contraception) I had fitted a while ago. Turns out I have to go for a scan as the coil may have been dislodged and there's a chance I could be pregnant.
Do I tell my ex now to prepare him, wait until I know for sure or just never tell him?
Opinions please.....
So you know I split with my boyfriend for various reasons, primarily though because It turned out he's married.
So I'm thinking, just get up and move on. However I had an appointment this morning at the clinic to check on a coil (type of contraception) I had fitted a while ago. Turns out I have to go for a scan as the coil may have been dislodged and there's a chance I could be pregnant.
Do I tell my ex now to prepare him, wait until I know for sure or just never tell him?
Opinions please.....
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Secondly, if it has been, you probly are not going to be pregnant.
Thirdly, I dont mean to be rude, but while you didnt know the guy was married and sleeping with someone else, if you were having sex without condoms, might it be worth getting yourself checked out, no intent to make you panic, but if he has been doing it with you, who else has he been playing around with without protection.
Already on it...
Fair enough, even though he hasn't been very fair to me. I do not want to be the reason his marriage messes up.
You seem very honourable despite his deceit which obviously was not your fault. Must have been a right kick in the teeth when you found out.
Anyway, even though I know very little about a woman's plumbing system, I've pretty sure you're not pregnant from what you say. Easy for some random 30-something bloke on the web to say of course but try not to worry. If it helps, not all of us are tossers
Ah, thank you for your kind words. I'm not going to worry right now, no point until I know for sure, I have learnt that worrying tends not to achieve much besides stress.
And I'm certain that not all men are, as you so eloquently put it, tossers! Lol! :-P I know that there are some good ones out there, somewhere, in the far off distance...hmmmmmm.....searching..... ;-)