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We do keep in private mes section he just happened to say in message he emailed me that all.
Ive made few good friends from here which i p.m +email .
:yes:
And yeah i coudn't have 3way with 2 guys it doesnt appeal to me too yea a guy+girl which ive done but idealy 2 girls next .
I never said it was anything to do with me or anyone else, however, if you're going to divulge such things on a public internet forum, expect people to have opinions on it.
Besides, you never addressed any of my questions or musings, some of which I would've liked to have heard your opinion on - primarily, the one about whether or not you would have sex with a guy you don't fancy.
And this is the dumb thing about it all - a straight girl who sleeps with lots of blokes, but because she fancies them, is a slut, but girls sexually interacting with other girls just to please guys or just 'for the experience' expect to be commended for it.
And the 'it was an experience' thing makes no sense. It's like saying that I don't like bananas, but I do enjoy eating, so it's okay.
Wasn't signed, and I really wouldn't have even if it had been, but it's nice to have been offered once in your life, right?
Piccolo and you turned it down ? Shame on you he he
But did you pull though that the question? X:chin:
I have a feeling you're not going to get your answers either.
I liked the bananas comment.
People do do stuff just for the experience though, and each to their own. But I still don't quite get it... I mean, you'd have to like the lady lovin' a bit surely to be able to do lesbian sexual acts.
And we have been assuming that there is a black and white hetrosexual, homosexual, bisexual spectrum though... It's probably a much more flexible thing. Bicurious is a word I've heard floating about from time to time... And I guess that's what some of the girls in this thread are saying they are. Just seems like people are getting very defensive about it.
it was with a friend from high school and her girlfriend.
i enjoyed it, but was internally conflicted because i had had sex with both of them but there was no affection besides that. it was completely about the sex. i think that made it much less enjoyable for me
probably won't ever do it again.
Worriedlover, I think what you've said is interesting. I just don't think it's very likely that you will ever be in a situation where all 3 of you want exactly the same thing and there is no conflict... I wouldn't want to have a threesome with a couple or, for that matter, if I were in a couple because the potential for conflict and upset is too great.
Hi agree
I alway said bicurious where u fancy same sex+maybe not know sexual way wise + bi sexual where u fancy same sex and do sexual stuff do .
Which i do and enjoy it.
Piccolo aww u aint telling
You are right, up to a point. Sexuality is a spectrum, thus, technically, we're all bisexual. However, the vast majority or us, of both genders, aren't bisexual in any real sense, which would be the ability to have a genuine sexual attraction to members of both sexes. So, instead of a heterosexual person being 100% straight, they may technically be 94:6 bisexual, however the 6% is so insignificant, that this person never develops any significant attraction of a member of the same sex. I know most genuine bisexuals tend to have a preference for one sex or another, but I think you have to be getting near the 50:50 dead-middle, before you begin to have a proper sexual attraction to both genders. Perhaps a ratio of 70:30 being where you like both, but it's much rarer in the same sex. Yes, obviously, with this theory, there is no definitive cut off point between being hetero, bi & homo, and some people may be on the boundaries of bi & hetero, or bi & homo, which maybe where people could genuinely say they're 'bi-curious', but my personal experience with girls who claim to be 'bi-curios' (it's always girls), is that they're usual merely exhibitionists.
Hmmm...
I think starting to put people into boxes of what is 'genuine' or not around sexuality is something that doesn't end well. Hard fought battles around sexuality haven't been about putting people into boxes, but allowing people to express their own feelings about their own sexuality in a way that are comfortable with.
If people expressing themselves sexually without an emotional connection or without even a real sense of attraction is something you find difficult, then it's okay to be bothered by that. If you worry some people are pressed into behaving in some sexual ways by partners or society then it's fine to be bothered by that as well.
However it's important to recognise that people feel differently about sex, and you being bothered by someone's expression of their sexuality doesn't make it wrong or any less valid.
But exhibitionism is a perfectly valid form of sexual expression for some, as is experimenting with people they may not find attractive, as is using whatever term they choose to define their sexuality.
Ultimately it's not about conforming to what makes you comfortable, it's about people choosing to behave in a way they are comfortable with, and I think it's a dangerous way to think to start pointing fingers and judging who is or isn't genuine. It's not about a scorecard of who or what you find attractive.
bet more than 3 people say yes :P
well said brother.
Ok Im all ears to answer your questions.
Would i sleep with a guy i didnt fancy? No i wouldnt.
If i was to have sex with a guy it would be based upon attraction and i would more than likely be in a relationship with him.
Ok, Here is my explanation of the experience thing.
Why do people who are affraid of heights still Climb rediculously high towers??? for the rush?? for the... Experience maybe?? surely with your big words and complex analogys that would be easy to understand??
I Did It for the experience. I wanted a 3sum, ive had one. I can cross it off my little list of things id like to do before i die,
Maybe you are old fashiond, Maybe ive just been brought up in a different society to you? maybe its to do with eira? im pretty sure im not the only girl in the world who has had a 3sum with a girl, whome she didnt fancy just for the experience. However, i do not fuck my Palls, or my family! Having a 3sum with another girl knowing im not attracted to girls was somewhat difficult, my best friend suggested it, and what with us being so close and me trusting her with my life anyway and knowing the next day it wouldnt even matter what we had done, i felt id made the right decision.
Ive slept with two men in my life, One of which was a two year partner so yes i would rather Have sex with someone i am in love with, so i do understand the difference between love and feeling the need to impress someone. however, like i said, the 3sum was just an experience thing. I probably wouldnt do it again but atleast i have done it, Something ive wanted to do and ive done. Life doesnt have to be so hard! do you think My dog thought twice when it decided to Hump my fluffy toys?? does he stop and think, "now then am i attracted to this bear here.... Do i LOVE the bear?" come on! I didnt plan out what was going to happen, or anything to do with it. It just happend. i didnt stop to think about love, or whether i fancied her or anything like that. So stop making something so simple so complicated. sex sometimes, can just be sex.
Okey??
Anymore questions???
I'd probably have a threesome with another girl, because like you said, its an experience and how do you know you're not going to enjoy it unless you've tried it?
I will draw attention to that fact that you said your friend was gorgeous previously in the thread so i guess you have to, and did, at least find them attractive a bit. Its possible even if your straight.
I'm all for trying new experiences, and at least now you can say you've done it.. dont knock it til you've tried it
That's all very happy and hippy and stuff, but it's not really entirely valid, is it? Sexuality is about attraction, not behaviour, or what you consider yourself to be. Thus, a straight girl who says she's bisexual is just a straight girl saying she's bisexual. I could go around telling everyone I was a giraffe, it doesn't make it so. I don't feel I should not be able to blow the whistle on this relatively modern fad in fear of comming across as tolerant as a Nazi sympathizer.
It's bad enough people pretending to like certain clothes or music, in order to fit in or be popular. I find it way worse when people pretend they're a different sexuality.
The main people I feel sorry for though are the real bisexual girls who end up not getting believed because of all the posers out there.
In a MFF constellation I kind of could imagine one or both girls being friends of mine, but it would be a bit strange (stranger if both are friends, than one of them), especially if they are good and old friends (as opposed to friend of a friend acquaintances), and I can't honestly say if after the whole thing everything would be like it was before. I like to think tho I am capable of that, especially if it was a drunken sloppy thing.
So can't sex just be sex with a guy you don't fancy then? But hey, you've just compared yourself to a horny dog, so, we 're just different then. I really, really, really, do hope though, that it is you who's unusual and not me. Ever thought of having sex with a really old guy? I mean, a wrinkly guy may feel different to a smooth guy. It could be a good experience for you.
And what sort of moron who's scared of heights goes climbing high towers? It's a stupid analogy anyway. You've used phobia, whereas I used taste.
Again I think you're making a fundamental mistake in applying your own view of sexuality as an absolute, rather than a personal perspective.
Don't knock till you've tried it is a stupid saying. I can imagine a murderer or rapist saying that to me. Have you ever tried eating dog shit? Don't nock it till you've tried it.
And there's a difference between you thinking certain girls are pretty and me thinking they're sexually attractive. I find 6 year old girls pretty, but I'm not a paedophile. I find certain men good-looking, but I'm not gay or bisexual. Just because someone of the same sex doesn't make you throw up at the sight of them, doesn't make you bisexual, as some girls like to argue, these days.
I really don't see the point doing something I'm not really going to be into, just so I can say I've done it, when I want to sound all interesting at a party.
But then, if you were to refute my claim that I'm a giraffe, I could argue that you're making the fundamental mistake of applying your own view of what a giraffe is as an absoloute, rather than a personal perspective.
Clearly you're offended by the way some people behave and they are offended by your view of them. That doesn't stop the way they behave being valid to them, and it doesn't justify starting to label people as genuine or not just because you find their actions distateful.
I don't understand why anyone would have sex with someone they don't fancy without being payed for it. As far as I'm concerned, anyone doing that is compromising themselves, in this instance, usually girls doing it for guys.
That's my point of view and I'm not sure I've anything further to add.
Thank you and good day.
I think you'll find alot of people who are scared of heights will do it for the thrill or just to say theyve done it!
Get over yourself and stop making life so difficult with your bloody analagies.
If im honest, you understand everything i say and see where i come from completly, you just like to make things harder i think.
Your entitled to your view points and i can see where your coming from, but as far as im concerned they dont mean a thing to me
Thank you!
Yes, Your probably right. I think she is absoloutly stunning, but i dont fancy her. Just like i think some lads are good looking, but i dont fancy them!
You are my god. :thumb:
The logic in this thread does not add up! Now I remember why I like older women better.