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Found pictures of Cocks in her msn files
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I've been seeing a girl for the last 5 weeks, it's been getting increasingly serious and she's been calling me thinks like "mine" and "perfect" for for the last 3 weeks or so. We are on the verge on making it official and she told me she was in love with me a couple of days ago.
Anyway, I was chatting on my msn on her computer and my mate sent me a file. I went to open the received files folder and found loads of pictures of different men's cocks (clearly taken by them on their cameras and sent to her) :eek: I felt sick and checked the dates of them - about half of them had been received since we'd been seeing each other and the latest one was about two weeks ago (on my birthday of all days!!)
Just wondering if people think this is weird... is it normal for girls to look at mens cock pictures?
I get the impression they are probably men from faceparty (a social networking/dating site) that she doesn't really know. I hate to think of what kind of convos shes been having, and perhaps shes been sending naked pics to them too or going on webcam.
I told her that i'd seen them and she cried loads and said she wouldn't want to do that anymore now that we're more serious, and she thought it was just a bit of fun before. She still logs onto faceparty many times a day.
The whole thing just makes me feel sick really!
Any opinions?
Anyway, I was chatting on my msn on her computer and my mate sent me a file. I went to open the received files folder and found loads of pictures of different men's cocks (clearly taken by them on their cameras and sent to her) :eek: I felt sick and checked the dates of them - about half of them had been received since we'd been seeing each other and the latest one was about two weeks ago (on my birthday of all days!!)
Just wondering if people think this is weird... is it normal for girls to look at mens cock pictures?
I get the impression they are probably men from faceparty (a social networking/dating site) that she doesn't really know. I hate to think of what kind of convos shes been having, and perhaps shes been sending naked pics to them too or going on webcam.I told her that i'd seen them and she cried loads and said she wouldn't want to do that anymore now that we're more serious, and she thought it was just a bit of fun before. She still logs onto faceparty many times a day.
The whole thing just makes me feel sick really!
Any opinions?
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Yes, it's normal for a woman to be curious about men's cocks. Just as in the same way men are forever fascinated by women's breasts. But I certainly wouldn't be happy about that situation. It's gotta stop, or she's gotta go. That's what I'd say.
I can understand how shocking this must have been for you to find, especially so soon into what from your perspective has been a great start to a relationship.
The site has an article which has some advice about the role porn can play in a relationship.
I would think it comes down to whether you believe her and how much she means to you. If you don't believe her but want to continue with the relationship then its likely you'll need to have a heart to heart with her, calmly explaining how you felt when you found them, asking (if possible in a non-accusing way) why she feels the need to connect with other people. Give her a chance to explain the whys and reasons and see how you feel.
It could be a purely visual thing, women can have the same reaction to porn that most men seem to: as a visual stimulus which just fulfils an urge. Or it could be that getting so serious with you is scaring her somewhat, leading her to retreat back to contacting other men in this way for reassurance. Faceparty is anonymous and so safe in that regard but also it represents people judging people as attractive so can be a powerful boost to self esteem.
If you too enjoy porn, it could be a really positive thing you can do together. Porn doesn't have to be a negative or solitary thing, if its just the visual she enjoys then you could find some you both appreciate and explore that side of things.
If that's something you can't see yourself doing or the faceparty thing is more than just a visual thing for her then hopefully she'll be able to work on slowly stopping this if she can see how much it hurts you.
All the best of luck,
Lisa
I just find it interesting that she keeps the pictures!
Me too!
I've never thought of asking guys for pictures of their cocks, especially randoms, nevermind keeping the pics lying around on my computer.
I've genuinely thought of something constructive to tell you but I must confess I don't understand this myself. If she cried she must've been pretty upset and I wouldn't be surprised if it was a fairly innocent act to her at the time. It's a bit naughty and exciting I guess. She probably did more than just receive the pics.
It's a tough one, I'd probably get freaked out as well if this happened to me. Sorry if I'm not sounding encouraging.
See what happens next.
I deal with it that my bf has porny pics. But since we started going out he takes pics of me instead
I'm almost tempted haha
The porn aspect of it doesn't really bother me - it's just that these are real men she's been talking to, and no doubt they all want to get their end away with her. It's just made me pretty paranoid and insecure considering she still goes on faceparty all the time and probably still has these men on msn.
Well yeah... I do look at porn, but I don't flirt with randoms online and try and get them to send me naked pictures.
That is a very good point.
I still just don't understand how she likes looking at pictures of cocks. I mean, sure, I like cocks but I like them attached to hot men with faces.
Hey! Keep me out of this! :banghead:
p.s. BTW, thanks for your cock pic, CoolMe. I didn't know you cared
Stop PM'ing me every 5 minutes asking for my msn!
CoolMe already has.
I really hope i'm not tempted to snoop if the chance arises!
Oh My God! I never thought I'd say this about a cock, but I really, really like it... Pretty big too...
There's a difference between porn and cyber-sex / swapping nude photos though. It changes from becoming impersonal to being personal. I think it's not that uncommon really, even for girls in relationships. It's all about the attention. I've had friends whove had boyfriends doing the whole prick tease routine, imo it is just to get a rise out of the guys and know they 'have it' (whatever 'it' is), rather than to actually do anything and go behind their partners backs.
From my experience in the past with getting hurt I'd want a damn good excuse otherwise I'd leave. But there are others who carry on flirting with others on the internet with the consent of their partners because it's just the internet.
Having cake and eating. Making beds and lying in it. Those kind of things! Heh, good luck and don't let her screw you around!
It's getting pretty serious - she's telling me she loves me now after about 7 weeks and I have strong feelings for her too.
Any advice on what I should do now? Should I tell her I found the new picture? I bottled out when I found it and didn't say anything and i'm not gonna see her for two weeks now (she's gone home for xmas) so it will have to be on the phone or msn.
i give you twenty quid if you leave it where it is.
I have to add a third
Why isn't she happy with your cock? She should be happy with yours and only yours.