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I'm so upset all the time :(
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please help me. i cry constantly. at tiny little things. someone only has to not smile back when i smile at them and itll ruin my day. i get so senstive about the slightest little things. i cry at least 3 times a week, mostly when i talk to my boyfriend. i get upset if he doesnt text me back straight away, doesnt call me cos hes working, thinks im wrong in an argument. im actually in tears right now because my boyfriend raised his voice at me in an argument and told me i was wrong (which i was.)
the fact of the matter is that i just feel inadequate all the time. i am so paranoid that when people look at me, they are thinking what an ugly sight i am. i hate it if my boyfriend looks at anyone else, even to just say excuse me! i have had problems with my weight before, i.e nearing towards anerexia. right now i guess i eat too much. i wouldnt say im fat, just a few pounds over. nevertheless, i feel so unattractive all the time. i am constantly looking for reassurance from people that i look alright and am a nice person. i am not exactly thick but then again i am not exactly einstein. this gets me down, because i feel constantly inferior to my friends and boyfriend.
i hate my job, and i cant seem to get a new one. i am 19 and have worked as a checkout operator for 2 years now. originally i wanted to work within admin or secretarial work and work myself up to be a pa, because that sort of industry doesnt rely on grades. but now i want to become a child nurse and i doubt that i will be able to do such a job. i havent heard back from the uni i want to go to and i dont think i will get in. i havent passed my driving test after 3 tries and this gets me down. all my friends and bf are at uni, and i feel so inadequate because in the meantime i have to wait till i can start till september (if i even get in.)
i dont know if this is depression, or just mere self pity. i know i sound self obsessed but you have no idea what my life is like. sometimes i actually prefer to stay indoors all day than go to see my boyfriend because i hate the thought of having to go out in public and go through the torment of paranoia.
my boyfriend thinks i am just a pessimist, which i am. but how can i be so negative about everything in my life? in retrospect, i have nothing to complain about: lovely bf, great fam and friends, nice house which i dont pay board for yet, aspirations.. it just is never enough. i constantly compare myself to others and put myself down, knowing ill never be as good as them.
is this depression? if it is, im scared that ill need medication to deal with it. my boyfriend was horrified when i suggested it and said it was a slippery slope especially because im only 19. im on the pill, which admittedly has made me a bit more emotional. but to this extent? im at rock bottom right now. :crying:
the fact of the matter is that i just feel inadequate all the time. i am so paranoid that when people look at me, they are thinking what an ugly sight i am. i hate it if my boyfriend looks at anyone else, even to just say excuse me! i have had problems with my weight before, i.e nearing towards anerexia. right now i guess i eat too much. i wouldnt say im fat, just a few pounds over. nevertheless, i feel so unattractive all the time. i am constantly looking for reassurance from people that i look alright and am a nice person. i am not exactly thick but then again i am not exactly einstein. this gets me down, because i feel constantly inferior to my friends and boyfriend.
i hate my job, and i cant seem to get a new one. i am 19 and have worked as a checkout operator for 2 years now. originally i wanted to work within admin or secretarial work and work myself up to be a pa, because that sort of industry doesnt rely on grades. but now i want to become a child nurse and i doubt that i will be able to do such a job. i havent heard back from the uni i want to go to and i dont think i will get in. i havent passed my driving test after 3 tries and this gets me down. all my friends and bf are at uni, and i feel so inadequate because in the meantime i have to wait till i can start till september (if i even get in.)
i dont know if this is depression, or just mere self pity. i know i sound self obsessed but you have no idea what my life is like. sometimes i actually prefer to stay indoors all day than go to see my boyfriend because i hate the thought of having to go out in public and go through the torment of paranoia.
my boyfriend thinks i am just a pessimist, which i am. but how can i be so negative about everything in my life? in retrospect, i have nothing to complain about: lovely bf, great fam and friends, nice house which i dont pay board for yet, aspirations.. it just is never enough. i constantly compare myself to others and put myself down, knowing ill never be as good as them.
is this depression? if it is, im scared that ill need medication to deal with it. my boyfriend was horrified when i suggested it and said it was a slippery slope especially because im only 19. im on the pill, which admittedly has made me a bit more emotional. but to this extent? im at rock bottom right now. :crying:
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No matter what you feel or if you are depressed or anxious or anything at all, counsiling, therapy and the like are always options. Even if you are just down or going through a difficult time, talking to somebody about it and finding ways to overcome it can make a world of difference.
It is best not to assume you have anything, and even more so, it is best not to assume such medicated negative outcomes.
Talk to your gp definatly. This is definatly not a good way to feel. They can find you somebody that will help you, no matter what.
I'm a little tipsy, sorry if that doesn't make much sense and it is all fluffy
Maybe talk to your parents? A friend? Or seek advice from your Gp there is no harm in telling them what you are feeling?
i'd agree with this, i tried 3 brands of the pill and they all made me...crazy! well i had extreme moodswings, feeling extremely emotional etc. i'd never go on the pill again, i only feel stable now that im not on it.
however i think that it sounds like there could be other issues that you might need a little help with, i.e low self esteem and self confidence etc. i really feel for you some of the stuff you say in your post really rings true and reminds me of how i used to be. if you wanted to work in admin is there no way you could ask to transfer departments in your supermarket, and ask to maybe be considered for a job in personell or on reception etc? might not be perfect but worth a try?
yes i am on microgynon 30! my sister had to come off it, made her weird. ive been on it for nearly 2 years now. do you think i should try changing to another?
and thankyou everyone so much for your kinds words
Still,glad you are better.
It might be worth speaking with your doctor about the other pills available. They vary in strength and even vary in the generation of hormone that they have in them so it's a guessing game really when choosing a pill although your doctor would probably suggest a lower strength one now.
I used Loestrin 20 for about 18months which was fantastic for the first year (although the change from Yasmin (same strength as Microgynon) to Loestrin made me an emotional wreck for a few weeks.)
But the problem I find with the pill is that even when they seem to work great for you, symptoms do creep up on you and you start to get bad pmt or feel moody/emotional. Loestrin decresed my sex drive too and the doctor said that was due to the low eostrogen.
I guess it's a try and see thing! good luck
ok, everything you have just descried is EXACTLY how i feel!! in fact, ive felt this way ever since i went on the damned pill!!! My god, i cannot believe that the possible main reason for my moods was staring at me right in the face!!!! one minute im laughing, the next im pushing away my boyfriend cos hes upset me when he hasnt really done anything!!!!
and also lipsy, i agree with the huge appetite. i have put on weight since i started taking microgynon, must be why people warn you that weight gain is a possibility.
i feel soooooooo happy that this may be sorted easier than i thought. im gonna throw away my pack actually, even if i dont see the doctor.
Really sorry to hear you’re feeling down at the moment. Like becks27 said, it sounds like you have very low self-esteem. Everyone feels low from time-to-time, but people with low self-esteem tend to blame everything that’s going wrong on themselves. It seems to me that you have heaps going for you and you should believe in yourself a bit more.
Whenever I’m feeling low, I find somewhere quiet and peaceful to go for 10 minutes and I write down all the things that are going well in my life. This could include anything from your characteristics, your looks, your family, your job, to the fact that you’re not paying for a lush house. When you’ve finished writing down all the good things, write down a short list of things that you want to accomplish in the next week, month and year and write a plan of how you’re going to achieve these goals. I guarantee you that this will make you feel better within yourself and also give you a bit more confidence.
I hope this helps a little and please have a look at our factsheets on building self esteem and net doctors guide.