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Hey dunc, sounds like the problem here is the environment - some people really get a buzz from a hectic bar, club environment whereas other people just don't get along with it and would much prefer a night at a friends house just chilling, or a night out doing something like bowling - sounds like you're one of these people. Perhaps you're spending too much time in these kind of environments and it's taking it's toll?
Last Friday I went clubbing and met a pretty attractive girl, we started chatting and I thought great another friend and possibly something more.
But her friend pulled her away from me. At first I thought perhaps they've gone to get a drink, but no, her friend had literally dragged her away from me, where they danced about 5 metres from their original position. That annoyed me. If the girl I fancied moved away from me because she didnt like me, fine, no problem. Instead it was her friend who dragged her away from me.
Why? Over protective? Jealous? Who knows?
On another occasion I was grinding and getting close to another girl and her mate simply told me to "fuck off" and literally shoved me away from the group. I wasn't doing anything inappropriate other than talking and flirting to her mate ( who didn't mind btw). Again, the girl I like doesn't tell me to fuck off, it's her mate. Charming.
I'm sure these are a few bad apples, but do any girls have an explanation for these actions?
I think that's a little harsh mate. not sticking up for anyone here but I think the guy is saying if the girl he's dancing with doesn't mind him being there then why does her friend feel the need to pull her away. If she's clearly in distress then I get it but going on what he's saying that does not appear to be the case.
(Giggedy.)
Yeah, which is why they allow themselves to be dragged off.
Who knows, maybe they're not too fussed about it or maybe they just think they'll go away not wanting to make it too obvious. That they so readily do bugger off when their friends drag them away shows they're not particularly interested anyway some people just chat to other people out of politeness. Actually pushing someone and telling them to fuck off is a bit out of order though, but we only have the guys word for how he was acting. But to call women 'cock-blockers' is immature and ridiculous. I'm not claiming to be some sort of ladies man or something but young lads these days have no clue.
I agree mate, I'm not arguing it's just you seemed a little harsh on the guy who posted above.
In any case I disagree about 'cock-blockers' - I mark out for that expression and shall be eternally grateful to Dunc for bringing it in to my vocabulary
I remember one friend i had who used to flirt with loads of guys, but if I got any male attention in a club myself, she would act all like she had to save me or look after me. It pissed me off when i realised what she was doing
So the other girls will get jealous and pull the girl away from the guy shes talking to or may get with as they wont be getting any tonight or its always her friends that get hit on and shes fed up of being left alone,with no interest from guys.
Girls in clubs dont seem to want their friends to get lucky with a guy while they arent.Im sure everybody knows when 2 girls have gone out together and one is going to go home with a guy the lonely one says "we came together so you cant leave me on my own"!!:D
Now,if that were me and my mate and he was taking a girl home Id be cheering him on (while taking money for taxi:D ).Hell,Id offer him my bed if he wanted...............as long as we get twos up.:thumb: