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How does EVERYONE manage to hook up??
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Your not suddenly going to become secure, happy and content just because you're in a relationship. Surely what you are saying is - I was happy in the past in the relationship I was in.
That doesn't mean you'll feel the same way automatically in a new relationship - especially if you've gone into because you imagine it's suddenly going to make your life the same as it was before.
No one is saying you can magically become happy, but there's plenty of advice out there to help with it - but you won't find it if you keep just trying to pull women to make yourself feel better.
I honestly find it hard to imagine, given the amount of anger and upset you've shown that you really feel that happy or okay right now. So the question is a pretty simple one - do you want to be happy or do you just want a girlfriend?
Because the two aren't automatically the same thing and going into a relationship expect everything to suddenly improve may be a very ill-advised idea, for you and for her.
Plus,when your talking to a woman you probably come across as "too nice" which girls interpret as "boring and dull".
Im not saying this to insult you but you have to realise you need to thrill a woman,you need to excite her and get her all flustered.Think of her and what she wants and needs instead of your own selfish problems.
Grow some balls,be outrageous with women,say you cant be just friends with her,pile on the innuendo.
Always try to leave people feeling good and happy about themselves when you talk to them.
And dont be afraid to walk away from women,for some reason it drives them mad to know more about you.
if you don't relax about getting a girlfriend you will never get one...there is someone for everyone but you have to be 100% happy with your own company and self first.
How can you actually tell this? There are some people who would consider some of those things to be irrelevant, and there are other people who would make these things seem irrelevant. Who judges say, the Dalai Lama or Socrates on any of those criteria?
The fact that you view people as "below" you is likely to put a lot of people off tbh.
It's more worthwhile looking at what's unique and interesting about you, rather than measuring yourself against other people. Otherwise you may become so distracted by this fantasy pecking order that you might overlook a really unique and attractive quality about yourself.
"Nasty" and "nice" aren't sexy... Other things are. However, I do think that people with low self-esteem seek certain character traits, also that many individuals seek people with low self esteem who they can either exploit, or "save".
I don't think there's anything grotesque about marrying a convicted killer. Why does a murderer deserve love any less?
This is undoubtedly true, but it’s not the only factor at work in some of these cases
Oh yeah,exactly what you want to do.The problem with always being nice and "safe" to girls is that theres no edge to you,your too predictable.
So be outrageous and shock them with things you say and sexual innuendo and never be afraid to walk away from a woman.
BUT,I want you to know I DO NOT IN ANY WAY mean for you to be horrible,insult women,be a sex pest or ever ever hurt them or make them feel uncomfortable or down on themselves.That is never what I or anyone else especially women want.
Always try to make them feel good about themselves and leave them feeling better about themselves after speaking to you.
Takes practice but its great fun.:thumb:
What website is this?
So how come you have trouble getting a girl then?
Just spent the evening getting advice from a professional 'pick-up artist' mate.. gave me lots of really great advice, like how on Facebook to always have mysterious, intriguing status updates which can be a turn-on, always come across as positive, perhaps make it look (subtly) like you have too many girls fighting for you, rather than be so openly single and wanting something as I have recently been doing. He said my image amongst some sets of friends has recently been tarnished, people have been gossiping that I'm desperate which just makes everything worse, and said it'll take a lot of work, and maybe a couple of false rumours from people like himself, to clean up that damaged reputation.
You are no more deserving of a girlfriend than anyone else... Who the hell 'deserves' another human being anyway?
We're talking about individuals capable of their own actions and descisions, not trophies for ticking the supposed right boxes.
You don't deserve shit mate.
Try a little humility, it'll take you a long way.
:yes: Couldnt have put it better myself Namaste.
As for those tips you seem devoted to, what a load of bull.