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Do you believe that people come in and out of our lives for a reason?
I firmly believe they do. That they're sent by angels and often that one person can make such a difference.
Poppi
I firmly believe they do. That they're sent by angels and often that one person can make such a difference.
Poppi
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Remember, there's no difference between "me" and everyone else; everyone is a "me" just as much as I am, and same goes to you. If you believe everyone is in your life to play a purpose, then you must also believe that you are in everyone else's life to play a purpose as well.
from a cause and effect point of view, then everything does happen for a reason.
but i disagree with a "it was destiny we met" style point of view.
if people come into my life, or leave then it's down to a big chain of events that is ultimately out of our control. but i don't think that it's divine intervension, moreso coincidence.
Best way I can describe it is "Shit happens".
People are themselves every day, sometimes you meet someone who is just the right person you need at that time - a listener when you need to vent for example, a rich lonely man when you are poor and horny is a more crude one - I do not think things happen for a reason, we just find reason in them to explain our actions to ourselves.
Yeah. I agree. We put to much emphasis on 'destiny' when in fact, we have to take what we are given and do the best we can under the circumstances.
:yes: Agreed. I don't believe that the world is pre-determined, and that we're just following along paths that have already been set out and cannot be altered, which would be implied by the suggestions that we meet specific people for specific reasons. I believe what happens in the next 10second is unpredictable and therefore can be whatever you want to happen in the next 10 seconds. Otherwise it's all a bit depressing, thinking you've got no control over how your life will be.
Think I first got it from a book though.
If people enter our lives as a result of some divine plan, then why is it only the people who have a positive effect who 'count'? Surely if everything is predetermined then even the bad things are a result of destiny?
Whilst for every action there is an equal and opposing reaction, for every action there is also an infinite number of possible outcomes, because you're dealing with free will.
I believe in free will, coincidences and luck. Nothing is set in stone until it's happened.
I believe we create meaning for our own lives based upon our events and our actions which we are responsible for.
Any of my mates I have met because I talked to and liked them and because I am social, not because of something more profound.
I always think it is easy to believe that things happen for a reason when, like myself and possibly other posters out there, you are living a comfortable life in a warm house, in country which is not being bombed. When you are not at constant fear of being tortured, executed and raped.
I believe that any idea of destiny or "it happened for a reason"removes some, if not all responsibility from the hands of people who abuse human rights and destroy our environment. If some people are meant to live comfortably, then why isn't the majority world allowed such a life? Where is the "meaning" in that?
Things happen, human beings are as capable of inflicting pain as we are of practicing compassion. The only meaning comes from after an event, when we choose how it impacts our lives.
No. I don't really believe in mystic things.
I don't believe in free willl. All current and future actions are determined by previous actions, so "choice" doesn't really exist IMO. That's not to say that some kind of intelligence has pre-determined everything, but having choice in our everyday actions is severly limited because of this.
Its called The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
This is one perons perspective, I also do believe things happen for a reason. I'm a firm believer in God and that he will help you find the right path in your life if you ask him and if this means people coming into your life, good or bad, theres always a positive intention.
Pah! The book's a load of tosh! I remember one memorable part that says you should not associate with fat people 'cos they bring negativity into your life, etc. The book has a theme of greed and blaming-the-victim, and it nastily suggests that victims of catastrophe are the authors of their misfortunes (tell that to the starving family in Ethiopia). Avoid the book at all costs unless you want to laugh at peoples' stupidity in believing that crap.
I never read the book, I came across that information on another website. I can't believe she shuns fat people, fatties are some of the nicest people there is.
Indeed! Take Father Christmas for instance ...
The above should read :
If EVERYTHING is predetermined, stop the world because I want to get off, because it has been predetermined pretty shit.
And in any case, even if it is all predetermined, what difference does it make to you? You still will choose what you think is best and live with the choice's outcome. Predetermined or not, it makes no difference whatsoever.
Well, it does. Take global warming. Why not just on our arses because if it's predetermined that it happens, there is nothing we can do about it - or, if it is resolved, it will resolve without us anyway.
'Predetermination' is just mumbo jumbo claptrap to absolve people from responsibility.