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our parents are always in the way........

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
hi,

i've been going out with a girl for about 4 months now and we are definately ready for sex but, the problem is our parents.. they are always in the way (if you know what i mean)... there isn't anywhere "private" that we can go to...

i don't know if anyone else has had simalar expieriences???

all replys and suggestions will be **greatly** appreciated......
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OH MY GOD!!!!!! he didnt introduce himself. GET out you are not welcome here! only kiddin if u read my earlier posts u will know why i say this! another one for the "regulars" to argue and moan about!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    to actually address your problem.... this is a toughy. how old are u guys. to make it more exciting u could do it outside! that will really turn her on, but may i suggest on top of the spin dryer, just after the last lot of laudary for the week has been taken out!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if ur young enough to have your parents in the way then your probably too young to have sex.

    and its also better to wait as long as possible cos if u do it when ur too young it may not turn out as good if u can't come properly.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by dirty_harry:
    if ur young enough to have your parents in the way then your probably too young to have sex. .

    Um....not really cos most people dont move out until they are at least 18. About where to go..um...outside in the summer is ideal but around this time of year I seriously do not recommend it! Other places - mates house maybe?

    Respect
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    harry, wtf are you on? so people are only allowed to have sex once theyve left home and are usually 18, like chrishot4u said?? if people want to have sex, its up to them, whatever age, as long as they feel ready and are careful and use a condom!! okay so its illegal under 16, but who cares?

    moonspoon (cool name! hehe), MY parents always used to get in the way with my boyfriend, only he stayed at my house due to him living 200 miles away and it being kinda difficult for a day trip.. so the middle of the night kinda solved the prob! hmmm im not sure what you could do, i spose outside would work, but its bloody cold at the moment!! maybe if there was like a sleepover or something at a mates, then the parents might go out and there might be a free room available...?
    It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well at 18 ur livin with ur parents but they shouldn't be in ur way as ur old enuf to make ur own responsible decisions.

    if they r in ur way as in watchin u then ur probably too young and thats why they dont give u any space.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    yeah but my parents live there so if i go having sex all over the place with blokes then theyre gonna be in the way arent they!! they just wander about and stuff, not spying, but you know, in and out.. kinda hard to have sex then... unless its extremely quick!!
    It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    get a hotel room, complete with champagne and get to it!
    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by chrishot4u:
    OH MY GOD!!!!!! he didnt introduce himself. GET out you are not welcome here! only kiddin if u read my earlier posts u will know why i say this! another one for the "regulars" to argue and moan about!

    Hey mate, cut with the shit, it's not funny. We all have our reasons for being so protective of thesite, for asking the newbies introduce themselves and stuff. I've been here a while, and I know that some bad ppl can come around. We wanna sniff them out ASAP, and the best way to do that is by getting to know them quickly.
    I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by chrishot4u:
    OH MY GOD!!!!!! he didnt introduce himself. GET out you are not welcome here! only kiddin if u read my earlier posts u will know why i say this! another one for the "regulars" to argue and moan about!

    do you know how many freaks there are on the internet??? we use this site to pour out our troubles and we do not want some freak coming in here a destroying it. so don't take the piss alright? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;


    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why don't you just wait 'til your 'rents are asleep or at least in bed? You'll just have to be quiet until ya move out <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    harry, wtf are you on? so people are only allowed to have sex once theyve left home and are usually 18, like chrishot4u said?? if people want to have sex, its up to them, whatever age, as long as they feel ready and are careful and use a condom!! okay so its illegal under 16, but who cares?


    Sorry GFM, don't agree there. Several of my friends (you lot must really worry about what sort of people I hang around with) have been there, done that, got the pregnancy test. It's all like, "Oh, I'm ready to sleep with him."

    "Are you sure?"

    "Yeah, I'll make sure he uses a condom and everything..."

    A couple of months later...

    "Why did I do it? He's such a tosser. Thank God I'm not pregnant. How was I supposed to the condom would split?"

    People can be on the Pill, use a condom and still get pregnant. Just ask my mother *lol*

    All this 'being ready' stuff is fine for a while, until he dumps you and the doctor patronises you when he gives you the results back. Without sounded 80, the law's there for a reason, because the majority of girls that age aren't really ready for sex [I'm not excluding myself here] Just look at the pregnancy statistics.

    Moonspoon...how old are you? Just imagine how embarrassed you'd be if they walked in on your girl giving you a good rogering. Save your cash and do as whizzygirl says, getta room already!

    *|* Chica *|*

    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    chica, it doesnt necessarily follow that young girls are the ones whose condoms split. my aunts did and she was.. well an adult, i dont know how old, and SHE got pregnant. my friend is 18 and shes just naive and believes the crap her boyfriend comes back to him, gets the morning after pill a few times, pregnancy tests, the works. and she keeps goign back to him!! mental. anyway... well like if youre 11 or 12 or somethign i dont think youre ready to have sex, mentally or physically! i just meant that people who are like 15, 16 or 17 and who live at home can be ready to have sex, whether or not they live with their parents or not! you shouldnt feel you HAVE to have sex at any age. of course condoms split, i know that, and it happens more often if people are inexperienced and tear it with nails or something. but people are always gonna go "why did i sleep with him, hes a tosser", whether theyre 15 or 30!! its just a fact of life, it happens sometimes.
    It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Girls bitch a lot about their bfs, i've noticed. If a guy get's a bad bird, so to speak, he generally just dumps her with a fair - sometimes even true - excuse and moves on. girls generally bitch about a guy for ages and ages!
    I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by MoonSpoon:
    hi,

    i've been going out with a girl for about 4 months now and we are definately ready for sex

    Forget about this guys and his girls ages, he wanna know where to take her. He reckons they are "definately" ready so dont keep on the issue of age.
    Respect
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey,

    sorry for not introducing myself- you're right there are a lot of weirdos out there...

    we're both 18 and have almost finished Yr13 (Sixth form).
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    hi moonspoon, just noticed you're from devon! wherabouts? im the same age, and from cornwall! and id say where i was from but id rather not coz i think there might be someone i know posting on here... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">... so you dont have to tell me where youre from if you dotn want, if you do ill say how far away i am! hehe

    sorry for changing the topic guys <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    chica, it doesnt necessarily follow that young girls are the ones whose condoms split. my aunts did and she was.. well an adult, i dont know how old, and SHE got pregnant. my friend is 18 and shes just naive and believes the crap her boyfriend comes back to him, gets the morning after pill a few times, pregnancy tests, the works. and she keeps goign back to him!! mental. anyway... well like if youre 11 or 12 or somethign i dont think youre ready to have sex, mentally or physically! i just meant that people who are like 15, 16 or 17 and who live at home can be ready to have sex, whether or not they live with their parents or not! you shouldnt feel you HAVE to have sex at any age. of course condoms split, i know that, and it happens more often if people are inexperienced and tear it with nails or something. but people are always gonna go "why did i sleep with him, hes a tosser", whether theyre 15 or 30!! its just a fact of life, it happens sometimes.


    I agree, but in the case of your aunt like you said, she was an ADULT. More life experience, more likely to have family/friends to support her, and almost certainly more likely to be in a better financial situation than a 15 year-old girl whose parents sling her out on the street, with nowhere to go, no-one to go to and no idea on benfits, etc. That's what I'm talking about, the fact that girls my age are MUCH MORE LIKELY to get a raw deal if they get pregnant.

    A woman can (in many circumstances) claim money for the child's upkeep from the father, but a 15 year-old can hardly claim from another 15 year-old, can they? Does anyone know how that works? Surely they should get financial support from the father's family, if they're in a position to offer it?? Anywayz, I'm going off topic, and I don't Chris to explode again <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    *|* Chica *|*

    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    im not saying that its a good thing for a teenager to get pregnant, god no!! of course its better to be older than 15. but i was just saying that people should be able to have sex when they want, especially if theyre over 16. just as long as they're careful.
    It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey GFM,

    mail me and i'll tell you where i live in devon,

    MoonSpoon,

    moonspoon@madasafish.com
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    im not saying that its a good thing for a teenager to get pregnant, god no!! of course its better to be older than 15. but i was just saying that people should be able to have sex when they want, especially if theyre over 16. just as long as they're careful.


    No arguments there <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    *Gives GFM a stick of bubblegum*

    *|* Chica *|*

    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey i want some bubblegum too!

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Moonspoon my mum will sit in her room if ive got someone round at the house, well if its a guy anyway and they very rarely get past the door, but ive never had a problem getting it on with my guys, theyve usually got their own houses or their parents aren't so bad about it,

    i really sympathise with you, its my fault really though cos my mum knew i was sleeping with guys and thought shed put a stop to it,

    its not stopped though i just dont do it in our house oh unless shes at work or out for the night.

    Sorry to ramble.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    Girls bitch a lot about their bfs, i've noticed. If a guy get's a bad bird, so to speak, he generally just dumps her with a fair - sometimes even true - excuse and moves on. girls generally bitch about a guy for ages and ages!


    That's a bit of a generalization isn't it mate?
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    JsTJsT Posts: 18,268 Skive's The Limit
    cunt
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by RachaelHolmes:


    Why not just wait until they go out and then get it on (more fun that way, esp if u don't know how long they will be gone for).

    How old r u both anyway (do you have a car, can be even more fun if the car is tiny!!! - btw i have a citreon ax).


    Hey Rach, ever tried the fromt seat of a mini!!!!!!!!!!!

    j9

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by JsT:
    point out every pub theme evening and nightclub oldies night u can!!!!

    i might try that... ;-)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    where ever you decide to do it in the end don't try it on a heavily carpeted floor, at least not for long, it just canes soooooo hard.
    LIFE: Quite interesting in parts, but no substitute for the real thing
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi,

    I have this problem SERIOUSLY.. I live with my boyfriends family, away from my parents, due to reasons..

    we share a bed and we have to be so QUIET.. so no shaking the headboard here LOL <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    try a mates house? her house? wait till the parentals have gone out shopping or something? make sure you know when your parents will be going out and then get her round there quick! if you have problems with this kind of situation.. then, erm.. tough.. sorry.

    move out if you really can't stand it.. but respect her wishes and respect her! jumping in 4 months into the relationship is a little premature for someone like me who waited 1 year before feeling ready.. make sure you use protection too! have you ever tried to queue for emergency contraception? it's a degrading experience for a girl, i can tell you. make sure you've talked over EVERYTHING and prepared for every eventuality!! would you be able to support a child? 18 aren't chu? make sure you know what you're leaping into!! i have seen SO many doctors <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Have fun!!
    FluffyPenguin
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