Do you feel guilty when you're lazy and do nothing?

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Today I woke up at 2pm, and have surfed the web (forums, blogs, Facebook) for a few hours, and achieved absolutely nothing. Now I feel completely awful and guilty about that. I don't have anything I need to do, but feel that time could much more constructively have been spent reading a book, or learning something (musical instrument, computer game), or even watching a DVD. Anything's a better use of time than excess sleep or online procrastination.

O/T, what's happened to this site? Last time I was here there'd be people responding to stuff every few seconds, now most boards have had stuff unanswered in hours. Thought on Bank Hol Sunday there'd be loads of people with nothing to do!

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i don't feel guilty, its what i've done all day today!

i think i've earned it after a week in work!

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Lazy? Enjoy it while you can

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There is rarely a day when I actually do anything. It's when I waste my life doing stuff when I feel guilty I'm actually feeling a nap right now... but I did just finish getting the sims bath and kitchen add on. Exciting!!!! :shocking:

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I really feel sometimes guilty about that, i got assignment to do and i am sitting here and writing this reply.

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Simba T Lion wrote: »

There is rarely a day when I actually do anything. It's when I waste my life doing stuff when I feel guilty I'm actually feeling a nap right now... but I did just finish getting the sims bath and kitchen add on. Exciting!!!! :shocking:

How do you afford to live if you don't do anything may I ask? And don't you get bored at all??

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I feel guilty when I have something to do and I put it off, which is most of the time actually. But then I'm quite a guilty person in general.

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I do feel guilty for being lazy but so far I've found no cure so looks like I'll be guilty and lazy forever

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Virus wrote: »

I do feel guilty for being lazy but so far I've found no cure so looks like I'll be guilty and lazy forever

That sounds like me, lol.

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I think when you join the ranks of the employed you won't feel so guilty. I've been at work for 7 days in a row I think nothing of doing fuck all for my first day off.

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tinkler wrote: »

How do you afford to live if you don't do anything may I ask? And don't you get bored at all??

With a job What you described as being lazy and doing nothing is what I get entertainment in. I enjoy sitting and vegging out, watching tv, knitting, sitting rotting my brain on the computer, taking naps, sleeping till 2 on the weekends until I'm rudely awaken by the hungry boyfriend and doing absoutly nothing all day long. Good stuff. Spend too much time at work and doing school work (who am I kidding, that only happens during the last week of the semster) when the time for nothing comes, oh baby do I do it

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Whowhere wrote: »

I think when you join the ranks of the employed you won't feel so guilty. I've been at work for 7 days in a row I think nothing of doing fuck all for my first day off.

I have 2 jobs and work 80 hours a week, usually I'm extremely productive on weekends - gym, swim, socialise, read etc. Gf's just left me so I'm all alone so have had no discipline this weekend to get out of bed and do anything and feel so shit about it

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tinkler wrote: »

I have 2 jobs and work 80 hours a week, usually I'm extremely productive on weekends - gym, swim, socialise, read etc. Gf's just left me so I'm all alone so have had no discipline this weekend to get out of bed and do anything and feel so shit about it

Then they'res nothing wrong with sitting in your pants all night. With all that going on no wonder you're so pissed off when call centres ring you lol :rolleyes:

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Ah well if it's your first weekend in ages you've sat around doing nothing there's nothing to feel guilty about fss. My advise would be to relax and take pleasure in doing nothing for a change..

Anyway after a break-up it's entirely normal to feel that way.

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Whowhere wrote: »

Then they'res nothing wrong with sitting in your pants all night. With all that going on no wonder you're so pissed off when call centres ring you lol :rolleyes:

Yes lol, I hate a second of my time being wasted.

I don't buy the argument that just because you do long hours in a job means you should not worry about wasting the other time.. because surely you want to do a lot more productive stuff in your life than just your job? Like sport, gym, a musical instrument, read, current affairs, any hobby like that should feel a better use of time than procrastinating on msg boards?

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Nope, I don't feel guilty. I can handle a lot of workload but I find that regularly I need to chill and be lazy just to stabilize myself mentally.

If I'm lazy day after day that's when I start feeling guilty.

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Productive hobbies is just another term for work

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Simba T Lion wrote: »

Productive hobbies is just another term for work

Nahhh... like, you work because you have to for money, whereas a hobby you should do because you enjoy, eg I like playing the guitar and learning languages, and feel its a better way to spend free time than on here all day.

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To be fair you're entitled to feel how you want about anything you do but it's a pretty strange thing to do, just to post on a message board to say how much you don't like posting on message boards - given you say you normally spend time playing music, exercising, and doing any number of a hundred other things I'm not entirely clear why not having a girlfriend is stopping you.

Because to be honest, posting on a message board to say you think posting on a message board isn't worth doing smells pretty trollish or at the very least if you find it makes you feel so bad it's probably something you shouldn't do.

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Simba T Lion wrote: »

There is rarely a day when I actually do anything.

Yeah, i think most peeps do 'something' constructive with their day. I don't work and rarely go outside but i make 3 meals a day and usally dinner is something from scratch. Look after the cats, bit of housework, sometimes some gardening.

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RubberSkin wrote: »

Yeah, i think most peeps do 'something' constructive with their day. I don't work and rarely go outside but i make 3 meals a day and usally dinner is something from scratch. Look after the cats, bit of housework, sometimes some gardening.

I never exagerate either

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Jim V wrote: »

To be fair you're entitled to feel how you want about anything you do but it's a pretty strange thing to do, just to post on a message board to say how much you don't like posting on message boards - given you say you normally spend time playing music, exercising, and doing any number of a hundred other things I'm not entirely clear why not having a girlfriend is stopping you.

Because to be honest, posting on a message board to say you think posting on a message board isn't worth doing smells pretty trollish or at the very least if you find it makes you feel so bad it's probably something you shouldn't do.

As you'll see from my posting history, I don't spend much time on message boards, and today is an anomaly. Before this weekend my girlfriend was living with me, and she'd ensure I'd be out of bed by 10am on weekends, have a healthy breakfast, go for a run with her, then to the gym, get some reading done, watch a DVD, etc. Being alone this weekend for the first time in a while, with no incentive for that kind of discipline, I have utterly squandered the day, waking up late and wasting too much time online. It's not all bad as I'm going to meet a couple of lady-friends in a bit and will eat. But yeah, personally I think anyone who spends all their free time just posting here could probably be making better use of their time.. do you want to look back on your past and regret wasting time like this rather than achieving a lot in your life? Each to their own of course, and I'll be gone again once I pull myself together and cope with singledom again (people may not see it as a big deal but we were pretty much a married couple living and doing everything together and now the idea of coping all alone I'm finding difficult).

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You could be doing something more productive instead of watching a dvd

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Simba T Lion wrote: »

You could be doing something more productive instead of watching a dvd

I find the occasional DVD a productive use of time. Watching a good film I can learn a lot about history / another culture, escape/relax a bit, or if its based on relationships/western living then it helps with outlook on life. Similarly a bit of TV is relaxing, and console games can be a decent use of time, in moderation (1-2 hours a day).

I think I'll do a part-time Masters MSc degree on top of my jobs, that will force me to be more disciplined on weekends.

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tinkler wrote: »

Yes lol, I hate a second of my time being wasted.

I don't buy the argument that just because you do long hours in a job means you should not worry about wasting the other time.. because surely you want to do a lot more productive stuff in your life than just your job? Like sport, gym, a musical instrument, read, current affairs, any hobby like that should feel a better use of time than procrastinating on msg boards?

How about if you worked two jobs and your asolutely knackered and you cant be btoheed to do anything at all.

If you burn the candle at both ends then no wonder people get ill.

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MrG wrote: »

How about if you worked two jobs and your asolutely knackered and you cant be btoheed to do anything at all.

If you burn the candle at both ends then no wonder people get ill.

As said I work 80 hours a week in 2 jobs, and its never a problem - 8 hours sleep a night, a disciplined schedule and plenty of exercise means I've never taken a day off sick.

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So you have just over 4 hours a day spare, and i dont mean that as free time, i mean that as time to get to and from work, do anything like grocery shopping, and your spare time all in one?

Theres a difference between being off sick, and feeling a bit worn out.

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Nope. I used to, but I make time to have a couple of hours to myself to do absolutely nothing, as the other hours are pretty busy. If I had a whole day to myself where I was pretty unproductive, I'd feel frustrated, but not guilty, then I'd try and use whatever time I had left to make it count.

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MrG wrote: »

So you have just over 4 hours a day spare, and i dont mean that as free time, i mean that as time to get to and from work, do anything like grocery shopping, and your spare time all in one?

Theres a difference between being off sick, and feeling a bit worn out.

I don't waste time commuting, I live near work. Grocery shopping takes 20 minutes once a week. I'm never worn out, always energetic and feeling tip-top. Don't do drugs etc, its all down to a regular schedule and 1hr gym/swim daily to feel your best.

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Well, I have to devote quite a lot of time to my work, although I don't work anywhere near 80 hours per week. (at least not at this time of year!) Mind you, there are some days when I don't have time for anything else. Yesterday was a case in point. I started work at 9am on Sunday and didn't finish until 11pm. By the time you've worked that many hours, you're going to be completely worn out. Especially when you've got work again the very next morning... Mind you, it's depressing when you consider how many people have to work until they drop (literally, in some cases) just to keep a roof over their heads. I suspect I'll be amongst them someday.

As I only have one day off per week, I have to use it pretty carefully. Some weeks, I do feel that there simply aren't enough hours in the day.

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tinkler wrote: »

I don't waste time commuting, I live near work. Grocery shopping takes 20 minutes once a week. I'm never worn out, always energetic and feeling tip-top. Don't do drugs etc, its all down to a regular schedule and 1hr gym/swim daily to feel your best.

I thought you said in another thread you so 20 hrs a week of gym stuff?