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Ladies - your views please
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Hey all, first time poster on here.
I'm a bloke and I'm interesting in canvassing the views of the women on this site. If you received the following message would you find the following it flattering or off-putting?
Hi! Hopefully you won't mind if I pay you a small compliment. Just want to say I think you've got gorgeous eyes and a lovely smile.
Backstory is that I like a lass I'm on a course with, and want to show my interest. Unfortunately don't really have the opportunity for extensive 1-on-1 conversation due to the fact that we're both in a group.
Be interested to hear your views.
I'm a bloke and I'm interesting in canvassing the views of the women on this site. If you received the following message would you find the following it flattering or off-putting?
Hi! Hopefully you won't mind if I pay you a small compliment. Just want to say I think you've got gorgeous eyes and a lovely smile.
Backstory is that I like a lass I'm on a course with, and want to show my interest. Unfortunately don't really have the opportunity for extensive 1-on-1 conversation due to the fact that we're both in a group.
Be interested to hear your views.
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it would be better to try and talk to her about something you have in common (your course??), like go up to her and ask if you can borrow a book or something. if the first thing you say to her is that you think she has nice eyes, she might think you're a bit weird
but it could work, that's just my opinion. i agree with the above, it really depends on the girl and what she's like.
Hi! Just want to say I think you've got gorgeous eyes and a lovely smile. I'd love to go out for a drink and get to know you. If you're up for it, I'm free friday and sat evenings this week? *your name here* x
Kat's message is also good though
when i was in year 10 a boy asked me out in the middle of a science test - when the teacher popped out ... all the class was lisening.. i felt like omg i like him too but im soo embarassed kinda thing ..
i think you should have a proper 1 on 1 with her first then see what shes like??
up to you though!!!
The same thing happened to me at school. And sometimes I'm talking about something important, or my friend is, and an interuption would be annoying.
If she's on your course you'll have something to talk about.
In an ideal world, yes, I would do so. As I mentioned however getting to chat 1-on-1 is not always possible due to the group situation, and so I thought maybe an email was another option.
On the negative side though, an email of course isn't as great is it when you want to say something personal, maybe placing pressure on the other person to respond when they don't know how?
Did it kill you? No. Basically whats the worst that can happen? She might turn you down but thats not the end of the world...you'll get loads of rejections throughout life (jobs, girlfriends, flats to rent, whatever) and the best way to deal with them is to pick yourself up and just move on to the next.
To be honest I wouldn't go down the compliment route I'd just ask her if she fancies meeting up for a drink sometime. If she says no then fair enough just say "Oh well. Let me know if you change our mind...I'm always up for a piss up" or something like that. Just keep it casual and then its not too bad if she does say no.
My advice would be to just go for it, you're only young once and its not the end of the world if it doesnt go to plan. Remember she might be thinking the same thing about you and she might be asking her friends how to go about asking you out. If all else fails then text/facebook her, not as personal but easier to save face.
Good luck.