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Damn her for sharing my name.
Let's see how she feels in another 17 years.
But there is such a thing as contraception failing.
It just seems like an angsty emo-rant, I half expected her to start on about how it was "the system" who failed her too.
Seriously, she'll look back on that in a few years and cringe.
Yep.
Did she just say that? :no:
Maybe you were an accident darling but the majority of births are planned (maybe not to an exact date but they are expexted.)
I hate talking about how I feel towards the opposite sex to anyone, I think because my parents teased me for hours about it when I was younger...but it's not their fault that I am a shy person, that's just natural and one of the characteristics of my personality.
Some people do jump in and have babies without thinking. I have reason to believe my best mate is about to make this mistake (just turned 21, just qualified as a HCP and has stopped taking her pill) but at the end of the day if someone wants to give birth that's upto them. There is no law against it. But, there are all laws protecting children from neglect/abuse.
Fine. Don't complain when they add arsenic to your morning cuppa then.
You're parents may have lovey. But some of us realise that there more to children than "the baby stage" - you know, us having been children ourselves at some point.
No, it was their choice to have a child not to have you there is a big difference. Sure they should take some responsibility for how you turn out, but that is ignoring the fact that we all have some personal responsibility in that too. When your parents say "don't", do you listen?
There are some very good points in there too though:
Although the final part misses something really important
I don't accept this. They do understand, more than the child does, that the decision to put themselves first occasionally will affect their child - even if it's in a minor way.
My reposte to her point though is this... at what point following conception do parents stop being people themselves?
I said it to my mum once and she said "I wish you had asked, cos I'd have bloody said no!"
How patronising can you get?! FFS, I think when people think about having a child, (most) of them would have thought this through. But thanks for the advice, I'm sure I'll sleep a lot better now knowing that raising a child is more than looking after a cute dolly :rolleyes:
It reminds me yesterday of when I was in a shop, and this girl who was about 11 was shopping with her mum. The mum was looking for things for herself, but the daughter kept pipping in saying, "Mum, these would look really nice with jeans," or "Mum, these are really in fashion at the moment, they would suit your figure" and all the mother could do was sigh and say, "Yes, I KNOW!"