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Ladies, why do you do this to us?
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This was one of the most annoying things about my ex girlfriend, and I hope I don't ever have to deal with it again.
I'll ask her what she wants to do tonight. She'll say, "I don't know, what do you feel like?" I'll rattle off a long list of things we can do and she methodically rejects every one. Eventually, it'll come down to me asking, "OK, do you just want to hang out at my/your place?" and the response, of course, is "no, I don't feel like it." So I ask her what she wants to do and the response is "I don't know, you pick something."
What the fuck. First of all, you obviously know what you want. You're not telling me, and you expect me to figure it out by myself. A guy's brain is not very complicated, and I'm not trying to solve the little quadruple-reverse psychology jigsaw puzzle that you're setting me up with. I'm just getting angry. Second of all, if I do pick something, you obviously don't want to do it and you're just going to be all pissy when we're out on our date or whatever. This, also, is going to make me extremely angry. Third, if you just plain don't feel like seeing me tonight, TELL ME! In this situation I'm probably NOT going to get upset with you, contrary to what you may believe in your over-analyzing mind. If you tell me this after an hour of arguing with you over what to do, however, that will make me mad. Just tell me right off the bat so I have time to make plans with the guys instead of spending the remainder of my night stewing in my room and reminiscing about how bitchy you can be.
So ladies, if you're ever in this situation, whether you have something in mind or just don't want to see him that night, PLEASE tell him the truth. It will save you both a lot of unnecessary anger. :yes:
I'll ask her what she wants to do tonight. She'll say, "I don't know, what do you feel like?" I'll rattle off a long list of things we can do and she methodically rejects every one. Eventually, it'll come down to me asking, "OK, do you just want to hang out at my/your place?" and the response, of course, is "no, I don't feel like it." So I ask her what she wants to do and the response is "I don't know, you pick something."
What the fuck. First of all, you obviously know what you want. You're not telling me, and you expect me to figure it out by myself. A guy's brain is not very complicated, and I'm not trying to solve the little quadruple-reverse psychology jigsaw puzzle that you're setting me up with. I'm just getting angry. Second of all, if I do pick something, you obviously don't want to do it and you're just going to be all pissy when we're out on our date or whatever. This, also, is going to make me extremely angry. Third, if you just plain don't feel like seeing me tonight, TELL ME! In this situation I'm probably NOT going to get upset with you, contrary to what you may believe in your over-analyzing mind. If you tell me this after an hour of arguing with you over what to do, however, that will make me mad. Just tell me right off the bat so I have time to make plans with the guys instead of spending the remainder of my night stewing in my room and reminiscing about how bitchy you can be.
So ladies, if you're ever in this situation, whether you have something in mind or just don't want to see him that night, PLEASE tell him the truth. It will save you both a lot of unnecessary anger. :yes:
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However, it really fucks me off that my boyfriend is incapable of making any decisions without his hand being held, so if i genuinely don't mind what we do, i make him decide. I'm teaching him, really
Me - "Would you lile a cup of Tea"
Her - "If You Like"
No, it's not if I like, it's if YOU like, I really couldn't give a fuck if you have a cup of tea or not. :mad:
True!! Honestly think that's so rude....nice enough of you to offer to make a cup of tea..she doesn't need to make it into some grumpy, moody game-playing thing!! It's JUST A CUP OF TEA!!
I know I AM one, but honestly, sometimes, girls....:rolleyes:
Say it was summer and quite warm. End up going for a long walk or something. Do you want to sit on the beach? No. Do you want me to buy you an ice cream? No. Do you want to sit and read your book? No. What's wrong? NOTHING! Then it's silence for the rest of the walk ;(
me: Do you want to do this? or this?
her: yes.
Hahaha, that reminds me of my ex SO much!
I guess indecision is just part of a woman's psychology. It is fucking frustrating at times though.
I do that all the time, my ex drove us 60 miles around Bristol while we argued about where we were gonna go. In the end we just drove about then went home
mate. blokes do this too- trust! like make up you rmind or get the fuck outta my mutherfucking house punk! yes, I get mad at indecision. But, if it's me, then I am just being cute, of course! lol
No, but you don't... you both end up in a sulk. :yeees:
The difference is the guy is usually thinging "Oooo, what can be both enjoy so she doesn't get in a sulk?", and you're usually thinking "What would *I* enjoy, but won't suggest?" :yeees:
Trust me, it's 99.9% of the time the bloke who is looking for the quieter life. Check the "What do girls really want thread" and "What to boys really want" thread for proof. Note the difference.
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:no: But then I normally don't give a damn what we do. As long as I'm with him I be happy. So generally if I really want/don't want to do something I say, otherwise I leave it to him.
Plus I think blokes don't really know what they want and thats half the reason behind the difference between those 2 threads. Had this discussion with a few of my male mates last night and they agreed. Blokes think all they want is an easy life blah blah, but when it comes down to it they are just as fussy. Look at the replies we give, I don't think there's any bloke who wouldn't want a female who was caring, considerate, trustworthy and all the rest of the things females say. Perhaps if blokes realised and looked for those qualities as well relationships would work better.
I'm also with a guy who has the same indecision problems as me so nights out can be very entertaining .... not for us but for passers by!
no, sometimes we just dont know what we feel like doing and would like the bloke to pick!
why over analyse? :rolleyes:
wtf? but then again, it's what we've come to expect of you
potw, seriously...
What the hell is this, the broad generalisation thread?
the thing that really pisses me off though is my friend whenever i ask her something like "do you want a drink?" she'll always answer with "do you want a drink?" its so irritating cos all i want is a strait answer she does it with anything she can never make up her mind till she knows what everyone else wants, i know its cos she wants to make everyone else happy but its so damn annoying!