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Re: Hello!!!
Hey @celestial_dog welcome to the community it's great to have you here! I also love dogs - animal acupuncture sounds so interesting!
amy02
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Re: Hello!!!
@celestial_dog hey, it’s lovely to meet u!! It’s so cool u wanna be a tattoo artist, I might have to watch Good Omens, I’ve been looking for a good series to watch! I’m also a big animal lover so the animal acupuncture training sounds super interesting
Re: Hello!!!
Hi @celestial_dog welcome to the mix it is good to have you here! Training to be a tattoo artist sounds so exciting! Do you have any tattoos yourself?
Doing nothing (vent)
You’d think a gap year is so easy. My parents tell me off when I can’t cope because “you’re not doing anything!!!” but having such an empty life is half of the problem. There’s no reason to go to bed. There’s nothing to do anything for. Every day is the same, and I feel like I’ve failed. I don’t have anything to focus on, not in the same way as I did with school. That took up most of my time and almost all of my brain power. It just feels better when you actually do something, I suppose. School was awful, so I feel like I should be fine now. At least I’m not overworking myself every day. It was so hard. But I was doing something. Now I’m just nothing. My brain can go all over the place because I’m not using it for other things. Sometimes I’d do homework to wear myself out and slow my thoughts down. I suppose I could still do that. I just don’t have the motivation to do anything because there’s always the next day - there’s no deadline for anything. It sounds like it should be relaxing but it’s just depressing. It’s been the strangest few years ever, I’ve just had the most demanding and exhausting few years of school and now… there’s nothing? It sounds so easy but it really isn’t. I don’t deserve for anyone to care about me this year because it’ll have no result. I’m contributing nothing to anyone. I feel like such a waste of space. And no one cares because I’m doing nothing.
Re: Crying in bed
It is hard looking for jobs and it's understandable it would you get down, especially if this has been going on for a while and you worry about your situation not changing.
But it's really positive to hear that you have a job interview- let us know how it went!
Even if you don't get the job, getting to the interview stage is really good and shows progress. You'll also have experiences in how interviews go as well so if you don't get the job, you can be more prepared for next time.
I don't think not having your passport will put off employers. It's important for them to do all the legal checks that you can legally work in the UK (which is why you need a British passport or other legal document to prove this). But since we don't use our passports often, I imagine many people would have forgotten where they put their passport or misplaced it.
It's good to have back up plans and other options. Any job will give you a basic income and you don't have to work at the job forever. It also makes sense that you don't want to go down the self-employed route yet as this doesn't guarantee you financial stability. And it's also understandable that you won't be applying for jobs that require certain qualifications or experience, if you know you don't have those at the moment. Being realistic while keeping your options fairly open is a good way of job searching as you are more likely to apply for jobs that you have a fair chance of getting and being able to do.
It's difficult when you don't have a routine and are worrying about things all the time. It also makes sense that you think you'd feel better once you've got a job as that is currently what is stressing you out. But with all your effort and now with the help of a mentor, hopefully you'll find something!
Take care and keep us updated!
@Maisy hi, thanks for your support here. I have had the job interview, it went ok, I forgot my passport the day before so they Saif they need that for the interview so rescheduled for ne next day. They said there's only 1 role and several people coming in so it's likely I might not have the job. Its a good step though but yh. I should find something soon.
Social services files
Is there a way to get a copy of my files from like 2011 or something. Will they still have the files from the case about my birthparents.
What about the police ones 🤔 can I get them from the day I was taken into care? Will they have already gone? How would I get them from Blackpool social services and police?
Will there be different files in the social services in Hull? That's where the story started with my birth parents becoming known to them
Am I allowed the files even when I'm under 18? Do I need legal requests for the files, like a lawyer or attorney thingy?
What if I cant get the files? How will I find out the whole story of my past? My past is just a puzzle picture filled with missing peices. Non of my past makes sense.
I JUST WANT TO FIGURE THE WHOLE STORY OUT 😭
sorry for all the questions ☹️
What about the police ones 🤔 can I get them from the day I was taken into care? Will they have already gone? How would I get them from Blackpool social services and police?
Will there be different files in the social services in Hull? That's where the story started with my birth parents becoming known to them
Am I allowed the files even when I'm under 18? Do I need legal requests for the files, like a lawyer or attorney thingy?
What if I cant get the files? How will I find out the whole story of my past? My past is just a puzzle picture filled with missing peices. Non of my past makes sense.
I JUST WANT TO FIGURE THE WHOLE STORY OUT 😭
sorry for all the questions ☹️
Rose113
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A reintroduction two years later
Hi guys,
Most of you will probably have seen me on the boards over the past 2 years (particularly the count to 10,000 one 😂) but since I've just passed my 2 year anniversary on the Mix (and in true sinead276 fashion, I missed the actual date), I thought what better time to reintroduce myself.
So hi, I'm Sinead, a former psychology student who has been studying a masters in Child and Adolescent Mental Health since September last year. I signed up to the Mix as a volunteer peer supporter to get some experience helping those who need it, but little did I know what an amazing community I would be entering. I have a passion for mental health and doing what I can to help young people who need an ear to listen and a place to be heard (and hopefully I've somewhat done that for some people)
Beyond the land of mental health, I love reading, listening to music (a true Swiftie here - listening to her as I write this), and going for a walk every now and then to clear my head and escape the pressure that is university deadlines and assignments.
So there's a little about me and I just wanted to say how amazing it has been over the past 2 years in being on the boards (when I have had the time) and I've realised this nearly sounds like I'm leaving which is NOT the case. Hopefully I can still help people on here where possible in the future.
No idea how to sign this off but thank youuuu
(if you made to the end, treat yourself to a biscuit or fun snack)
Most of you will probably have seen me on the boards over the past 2 years (particularly the count to 10,000 one 😂) but since I've just passed my 2 year anniversary on the Mix (and in true sinead276 fashion, I missed the actual date), I thought what better time to reintroduce myself.
So hi, I'm Sinead, a former psychology student who has been studying a masters in Child and Adolescent Mental Health since September last year. I signed up to the Mix as a volunteer peer supporter to get some experience helping those who need it, but little did I know what an amazing community I would be entering. I have a passion for mental health and doing what I can to help young people who need an ear to listen and a place to be heard (and hopefully I've somewhat done that for some people)
Beyond the land of mental health, I love reading, listening to music (a true Swiftie here - listening to her as I write this), and going for a walk every now and then to clear my head and escape the pressure that is university deadlines and assignments.
So there's a little about me and I just wanted to say how amazing it has been over the past 2 years in being on the boards (when I have had the time) and I've realised this nearly sounds like I'm leaving which is NOT the case. Hopefully I can still help people on here where possible in the future.
No idea how to sign this off but thank youuuu
(if you made to the end, treat yourself to a biscuit or fun snack)