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is what people wear important when it comes to being attracted to them or not?
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would you completely not care if someone you could potentially be attracted to was wearing clothes that you thought looked realy awful or could you never think that because you dont think clothes are important at all?
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Equally, I like a nice man with a good sense of fun who is kind to me, who looks like a tramp.
So basically, it's a factor but it's not everything and it's not essential.
I'll give you £50 if I ever see that.
Maybe not dressed like a tramp. But if he was a nice enough guy, I probably wouldn't notice the clothes
me and mr. junkie have many a 'you can't go out dressed like that' moment. but we're always joking.
we're after each other for who we are, not what we wear.
How you dress says a lot about your personality, and I wouldnt fancy someone who dressed like a townie because I find that generally those sorts of people are not people I like to associate with. Some people would associate with them, and wouldnt find a goth attractive.
So yes, style of dress is important. Though not the be-all and end-all. What individual clothes you are wearing is neither here nor there.
a couple of years ago i would have agreed with you, but my mind has been changed by a couple of people i wouldn't previously have been seen dead with. not in a romantic way, but i think the same thing applies.
my brother's girlfriend, and this guy i used to work with are both of the rough-townie-bordering-on-scally persuasion, and i used to be all snobby about people like that. but they are great, and we really get/got on well. in the end, our personalities meshed, and it didn't matter that i was wearing baggy jeans and had pink hair, and they were in sportswear and gold jewellery, we got on.
and if it can happen with them, i don't see why it can't happen romantically.
clothes do make u intiallty attracted to the person, but its personality rthat matters most
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Aslong as a lad doesn't look *really* scruffy, I can't say it bothers me much. However, the person I've liked for ages now is into wearing sporty stuff
I think what women wear is in a sense more important than what men wear...women can wear clothes which flatter their figures etc, thus drawing attention from the opposite sex or whatever :flirt: :yes:
it is in a sense a reflection of people's personality-even if we arent aware of it we are sending out messages about ourselves through our appearance-we're creating an image of how we want to be perceived by other people.
well that's in my opinion anyway, anyone beg to differ?
IF a girl dressed "trendy" i find that a massive turn on! I do generally go 4 a trendy looking girl.
I kind of agree with Kermit, but at the same time I do think that personality is the most important factor and clothes aren't always completely representative of a person's personality. My ex dressed like a tramp, I laughed at some of the things he wore, but I never really cared because it was him I liked, not his clothes.
I won't touch men in shirts, because I associate them with the 'beer boy' mentality and I can't stand people like that.
Me too. I tend to be more attracted to indie/alt-type girls, partly because I think it looks good, partly because it sets them apart from the generic High Street look (no offence girls! ) and partly because it means they probably have decent taste in music which, shallow as that sounds, is important to me.
However, some girls wear totally innapropriate, or trashy, clothing, and that just doesn't work at all.
Clothes are part of the first impression that we give, and that we see, so you shouldn't underestimate them.
I make sure I'm smart, casual. I don't go for labels, mainly because I just can't afford them, and because I don't like looking like a ad hording for clothes companies. As long as they're smart and stylish.
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However..I once went out with a bloke who basically dressed like a nazi...shaved head, rolled up tight jeans, big boots...but he was really nice and not a nazi. Yhough we always called him 'dave the nazi'!!
Yeah, thats very true. I was kinda meaning on the first-impressions type of thing. I doubt youd have stopped and chatted to them on the bus if you didnt know them, but you got to know them for them and liked them.
Personality overrides everything, but impressions are advertisements, and people generally only go for things that are presented in a way they like:)
i would rather go for a girl wearing jeans and a top which actually keeps their breasts in than a bird wearing a very small mini skirt and a very low cut top. yes i know there are exceptions but usually these clothes come with certain charecteristics, innit.
I think as long as they werent a townie, or a really heavy goth, or an "individual" ( im talking about you purple and green haired girl with the bunny ears and leather trousers down the local park perving on the skaters), I couldnt care less about what they wear.
But if someone I like makes an effort and dressiz up one day it gives abit of a kick to the like thing. know what i mean?
If i was going on a date with someone then yes clothes would matter in the sense that if they turned up looking a right scruffy bastard who looked like they'd put no effort into getting ready then i might be a bit taken aback and think, hmm not worth the effort of trying then. I don't mean by this they have to wear suit but i wouldn't be overtly impressed if someone turned up in their running trainers, a t-shirt and scruffy trousers.
Call me a snob or whatever but a clean and well turned out apperance does tend to help
yeah. i can see what you're saying. i think if a guy dresses a certain way i'd smile at him in the street, but when it comes to actually having a relationship, i'm not too fussed.
i met my bloke on the net, and i totally fell for him before i even had a clue what he looked like.
all my previous boyfriends have been mates before anything else, and i'll make friends with pretty much anyone, so long as we get on...
I think Kermit mentioned something like this. I would never be immediately attracted to anyone that dressed gothy because I personally don't like the 'goth' look. That doesn't mean I wouldn't be attracted to them if I got to know them because in my eyes personality is a lot more important than looks.
But then again, I do know people who dress completely different to their personality... argh!
Oh God, seems like I just shot myself in the foot there...:rolleyes:
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