If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Options
Taking advantage?
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Do you think it's right for a guy to sleep with a girl when she's drunk?
I don't really mean a guy who's been with someone for years or whatever, I mean if he's met her on the town that night, or if they hardly know each other, and she makes a drunken pass at him.
I think it's sick, wrong, and taking advantage more than anything, but I know people who disagree with me,
Discuss.
I don't really mean a guy who's been with someone for years or whatever, I mean if he's met her on the town that night, or if they hardly know each other, and she makes a drunken pass at him.
I think it's sick, wrong, and taking advantage more than anything, but I know people who disagree with me,
Discuss.
0
Comments
Very true. In fact, we could say it's the guy who's being taken advantage of! Though he could simply reject her because she's drunk, which is what I would do.
It depends on how drunk she is, to be honest. If shes tiddly then I dont see a problem with it, but if shes too drunk to stand up straight or even know where she is then obviously its taking advantage. If her inhibitions are down because of drink, but shes still sober enough to understand what she is doing, then why not have a dabble? Its those who sleep with near-comatose girls who I feel disgusted by.
But if she doesn't make the first move, and only goes along with his advances because she's too out of it to say no, then I think that's pretty obviously taking advantage of her.
And Kermit, yes, I think it would still be taking advantage if the roles were reversed, in the same scenario as above.
One of my male friends slept with a wee 18yr old girl who had just moved to uni from Glasgow. We were in the taxi on the way home and she was practically puking out the window. I kept telling him to take her home and he said he would let her sleep it off then take her home. Of course she was still there in the morning. He got her up and told her she'd have to leave cos he had to go to uni, walked her to the underground and went back to his bed.
We fell out for a long time after that cos I really thought that was totally taking advantage. She kept on saying to him that she'd only sleep with him if it wasn't a one night thing. Of course it was and he knew that but she was so drunk she believed him.
On the other hand, I have one female friend who has quite recently started getting drunk and sleeping with random guys but she doesn't have any regrets about it the next day. i suppose cos she's a bit older, can handle her drink better and is making a concious decision to have a one night stand so she's not being taken advantage of at all.
Sorry, this post ended up being a bit long! But basically, i think that it depends on the situation.
Im amazed you managed ot forgive him for that, I know I wouldnt have managed to. Thats the sort of knobhead I was meaning would be taking advantage, and the sort of knobhjead who needs a smack for it :mad: :mad:
Its a bit like rape isn't it?
It happens alot in Spanish holiday resorts. You even have to rescue some girls from the toilets before its too late.
Um, Um,.....That's hard to define. You could argue on both sides;
I think as girls are drinking more and more these days (and most do get so drunk they don't know what they are doing!) there may become more reports of rapes.
But I don't think you can class every case like that as rape.
It's hard to call, I think if the girl show willing signs she wants sex, but is very drunk. I think I might do it (depends I guess)
But who knows, the next day she may cry rape.
Some guys today have no bloody respect. I think if a girl is tottally legless the man should be a gentleman and see her home, and say goodnite. Even if he takes her phone number and contacts her when she is sober is a better idea than making her do things that she may possibly regret
If they're both drunk thoguh....tis a different story
Mr_Wobble
I think when a girls drunk you should put her to bed perhaps. And if she is wasted I guess you could take her back to your place etc but not sleep with her just to look after her till the morning and make her coffee and such. But then again... a lot of guys go out for the purpose of getting sex that night so if a girl is incapable of saying no properly shes gonna make herself a target really.
Has anyone noticed girls seem to be getting a lot more drunk in this day and age? Most girls I know drink a lot more than me...
Mr_Wobble