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That's a lovely idea. I know of a few other people on thesite who are going to try to wait until they're married. I myself would LIKE to wait until my wedding night to lose my virginity but I don't see it happening myself so several months into a long-term relationship is fine for me, as long as I am positive he's the one.
That statement surprises me. There's easy girls all over Britain.
(um... OK, you believe in having sex before marriage or you don't)
I've never understood how people can be sure that who they're with is the one. With me, I know that my one will be the person I'm married to.
For me, it just makes it a lot easier than sitting wondering if who you're with is the right one, if it's going to last, how it's going to change your relationship. Granted, in marriage none of these a guarenteed to turn out for the best, but it's more likely to, in my opinion.
I agree with you. I used to think "right I'm not having sex until I am married" but then I thought about how difficult it would be to wait, for both of us...
are you bothered about when you lose ur virginity? Not really, but I think rather sooner than later!
where you do it (like a random place or a nice cosy bed) Doesnt really bother me, but I think Id rather it be private, rather than outside in the open, unless it was very open...
or who you do it with (total random or long term relationship) Not some random stranger, preferably I care about, but i'm not about to set a time limit on that one!
It doesn't look to be too difficult a thing to get right, and if you're not that good, just ask for more practice
Not particularly bothered about where... i'm not deceived, i know it wont be "perfect" but hmm... i sway more towards a nice comfy bed (who doesnt)
So it will be a long while before I let a boyfriend see my nakedness... ho hum.
I've only ever had one boyfriend and he lied to me about him being a virgin, so as you can guess, I'm very sceptical about guys virginity...
But, I've met this guy called Justin, who's great. He's the same age as me, he's a genuine guy, kind and caring.. he texts me every day sayin things like "thinkin about you x" and things...
We're not together yet, but I can imagine losing it with him. He's just as inexperienced as myself which makes me feel unbelievably relieved and comfy.
I don't want to regret my first time. I don't want to rush it, or feel pressured to do it. (My ex kinda pressured me)
I wanna be in a (warm!) bed, dim lighting, a lil background music and a guy that I respect, love and trust who feels the same about me.
I'm quite looking forward to being intimate with a guy
Ilora x
which makes me dead afraid to get nekked with any woman
Awww! Have you ever thought of using some hair removing cream? Or even waxing.. you could have back sack and crack I think it's called!
Ilora x
Don't be. My boyfriend has a hairy arse and he is sex on legs
When it comes down to it 'physical imperfections' don't matter a bit - if your other half loves you - or even is madly in lust with you - then they'll accept the whole package...and may even develop a hairy arse fetish. Ahem.
and one thing worse than a hairy arse.... a stubbly one! lol
Anyway, so now I've decided to just wait until it's right, and I'm ready, and it's with someone I love and trust, who loves and trusts me. Like other people have said, I know it won't be perfect but I want it to be as perfect as possible, and to be confident that I won't regret it.