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suicide and rape
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why dont half of us report our rapes? or sexual abusers? i know for a fact that most people on here who I have read about who have been raped or sexually abused know who did it - so why dont/didnt we report them?
I didnt because I knew him. i knew who he was and I was scared of him i guess. but still - is that really a reason to not report them? surely if we did they'd get locked away and we'd never see them again? And fo course they'd nbever be able to rape or abuse anyone else after they've been arrested? so why didnt any of us do it? or maybe someone who was abused by the same guy previous to our own abuse - why didnt they say anything? do you think its worth saying anything at all - being as thoug most of these guys get out after a couplf of years anyway? surely it just makes it harder for us to live with oursleves, especially after we know they#'re gonna be out in a couple of years., and when they['re out - they'll come looking for the person who put them inside? sorry im pissed.
and suicide... why do our suicide attempts never work??? a lot of us on here ahve tried, but its bnever wokred, only one guys worked and god rest his soul for it, but most of us are here to tell the tale. Whats with that? the three men i know who tried it all successfu;ll;y did it, but everyone else, including myself, who ahve gone for it, its never worked. do you think thats lack of will power, or do you think its some sort of miraculous force brining us back to life and sayinf 'no - its not your turn yet'?
I didnt because I knew him. i knew who he was and I was scared of him i guess. but still - is that really a reason to not report them? surely if we did they'd get locked away and we'd never see them again? And fo course they'd nbever be able to rape or abuse anyone else after they've been arrested? so why didnt any of us do it? or maybe someone who was abused by the same guy previous to our own abuse - why didnt they say anything? do you think its worth saying anything at all - being as thoug most of these guys get out after a couplf of years anyway? surely it just makes it harder for us to live with oursleves, especially after we know they#'re gonna be out in a couple of years., and when they['re out - they'll come looking for the person who put them inside? sorry im pissed.
and suicide... why do our suicide attempts never work??? a lot of us on here ahve tried, but its bnever wokred, only one guys worked and god rest his soul for it, but most of us are here to tell the tale. Whats with that? the three men i know who tried it all successfu;ll;y did it, but everyone else, including myself, who ahve gone for it, its never worked. do you think thats lack of will power, or do you think its some sort of miraculous force brining us back to life and sayinf 'no - its not your turn yet'?
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so yeah lack of will
some of the reasons why people don't report our rapes are:
it's hard to prove
lack of respect from coppers
to try and forget
SHAME
If people really wanted to kill themselves there are plenty of ways to do it and be certain of the result .. I'd say a lot of attempts are a cry for help.
I do think if someone does commit suicide they should try not to screw up other people's lives in the process .. my work mate was catching the tube to work, this girl pushed past him, asked him for the time and then jumped infront of the train!! .. It really screwed with his mind!!
Thinking he was the last person she spoke to .. or that he could have done something to save her ...
As far as rape goes I kind of think it's one of those crimes where personal revenge is more satifying then the whole police and court thing ...
:yes: I agree with this
But i have absolutley no idea why my suicide attempt didnt work, it should have. I read up and that to make sure id die. I wasnt found for 10 hours after it happened, so none of the usual treatment could be done, id taken way over double a fatal dose that i remember (and docs did blood tests and said id taken more like 3times fatal) and had a bad liver before hand. It should have worked, but it didnt. My mum says its because ive got a guardian angel. I dont know how true that is, but thinking back now im so glad that it didnt work.
:yes:
When things turned from bad to worst & he didn't want ot live anymore, he made no way for anyone to know how he was feeling & made sure that this time it worked .
He went somewhere where noone would find him until it was too late. That is the difference, the last time he didn't want help!
*Hold self together*
well they were the factors in my case...
i wasnt raped but someone tried to attack me, i didnt press charges because:
so there you go
and when i was raped i didnt report it cos i didnt think that people would belive me.
i was drunk and at first i wanted to fuck this guy but then when he was just about to i chickened out and i told him to stop but he didnt. when he did stop he made me give him head.
and also he was a mate of one of my best mates and i didnt want to loose my mate.
it's all a shame.
with rape you want to forget so try not to think about it, and with suicide, it's 50-50 chance, ok some purposly do it so it doesn't kill them, but most, just chance that you survive. :rolleyes:
As for rape, i don't personally know anybody that has gone through the torment, but if any one ever harmed my mother or my sister like that i know i would try to kill them. The thought alone terrifies me.
I don't know you but i'm glad you failed at it .
The TV has all these drama programs where the lawyers are wankers and they manage to probe so deep the person gets shouted at and starts crying and stuff. Maybe it's because court is such a scary prospect? The defendants have to be there and so do you, they can see you, watch you, it's absolutely horrible. If the guys plead not guilty they may as for me in court, i really don't wanna go, I can't express that enough, but I don't want them to run free so I might have to, hopefully the video evidence will be enough. Either way it could be court, or of course the other reaons such as being scared.